SAY GOODBYE TO YOUR ATTACHMENT ISSUES
Get ahead with this step-by-step, comprehensive online course on all three insecure attachment styles: anxious, avoidant & fearful to find and keep intimate love.
it's not been easy for you...
You are so confident in every other area of your life, but relationships simply allude you.
You’ve tried to understand why you keep attracting the wrong person.
But no matter what you try, you keep finding yourself living through the same patterns again and again without an end in sight.
You tell yourself, THIS relationship will be different, but before you know it, it becomes all too familiar.
And you have tried so hard.
your attachment style hasn't helped...
Anxious
- Your love life isn’t what you'd imagined it to be?
- Constantly chasing and the one making all the effort?
- Attracting emotionally unavailable partners?
- Over-giving at the expense of yourself?
- Emotionally exhausted
Avoidant
- Struggling to find the right person that ticks all the boxes?
- Needing distance from emotional intimacy?
- Really wanting connection, but not knowing how?
- Considering you're better off alone: it's just too hard?
- Feeling suffocated?
Fearful
- Pushing & pulling in relationships because of intimacy issues?
- Constantly testing others ?
- Sabotaging when things seem to be going well?
- Have trust issues that you can't seem to overcome?
- Overwhelmed?
with the right tools and insights...
YOU CAN TRANSFORM YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE TO SECURE ATTACHMENT
You no longer need to be consumed or avoiding your love life: this course has the resources to turn your attachment anxieties and fears into clarity and confidence.
imagine
feeling a strong sense of agency, safety, and individuality
advocating for yourself, making choices that align with you and increasing connection at the same time.
feeling relaxed and calm with a regulated nervous system
feeling in control, choosing people that are safe for you so that you are more at ease and fulfilled.
attracting a partner that truly aligns with you
choosing a partner you feel connected to, and who reciprocates the same energy and values as you.
intimacy, warmth and connection with your partner
a safe place where you can fully be yourself: vulnerable without fear and shamelessly happy too.
INTRODUCING
THE SECURE ATTACHER
This evidence-based online course is your roadmap to build secure attachment, attract the right partner and create a healthy intimate relationship.
When I came across Shabana on Instagram, I had started trying to date again and was filled with unbelievable amounts of anxiety. During my first call with Shabana, I instantly felt an ease and relief I hadn’t felt in a long time. I felt like I was finally seen, heard and accepted. For the first time in over 5 years, I am in a happy, committed relationship and feel more myself than I EVER have
Bridget, USA [Avoidant] * UPDATE* she just had a baby 2023!
MODULE 1
FIX THE FOUNDATION
You will dive deep and discover the real reason why you're stuck in your current attachment style. This insight alone -previous clients have said -can significantly reduce your relationship anxieties.
This modules includes:
- 3 Lessons
- 12 videos
- 3 Activities
After this module, you’re ready to start working on your nervous system
MODULE 2
REGULATING YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM
You will get crystal clear on how your nervous system is affecting your attachment style and vice-versa and learn tools to feel less triggered in dating and relationships so you feel more resilient and at ease.
This module includes:
- 6 Lessons
- 24 Videos
- Meditations and activities
After this module, you’ll feel more regulated & ready to start building your self-worth
MODULE 3
SELF-WORTH THE ATTACHMENT WAY
In this module you will learn how your individual attachment style has influenced your self-worth and gain new insights and mindset shifts to build your self-worth and create healthier patterns in your relationships
This module includes:
- 5 sub-modules
- 38 Videos (incl. the fear of abandonment)
- Mindset shifts, meditation pdf handouts.
After this module, you’ll be ready to start re-defining your identity
MODULE 4
ENVISIONING YOUR NEW IDENTITY
So you’ve began undoing the layers of conditioning. Now what? Now it's time for you to choose and create your own identity which is the foundation of a secure person: knowing who you are and what you represent.
This module includes:
- 2 sub-modules
- 9 videos
- Handouts and activities
After this Module, you’re ready to start dating
MODULE 5
FROM ATTRACTION TO COMMITMENT
You will learn the mind tricks that keep you choosing the wrong partner, and more crucially discover whether he truly is avoidant (and why it really doesn’t matter), and powerful ways to attract and commit to the right person.
- 4 sub-modules
- 40 videos!
- Handouts and activities
After this Module, you’ll feel confident in your skills to attract the right partner.
MODULE 6
FIX ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT DANCE
You will learn what is really happening in the anxious-avoidant dynamic (it's not what you think) and key tools and skills to create a secure partnership where both you and your partner feel seen and heard. Yes, it is possible.
- 5 sub-modules
- 28 Videos
- 3 Assignments
After this Module, you’ll be feeling so much more secure within yourself and your relationship
MODULE 7
CONFLICT THE HEALTHY WAY
In this module, you learn practical tools and insights to not only overcome conflict in a healthy and safe way, but to use it to create intimacy, fun and connection in your relationship.
- 5 sub-modules
- 36 Videos
- Mindset shifts, activities and handouts
After this Module, your secure attachment skills are solidified.
BONUS MODULE
MASCULINE-FEMININE ENERGY
The role of masculine and feminine energy is rarely discussed in attachment styles, yet plays a pivotal role in creating secure love. Understanding both your masculine and feminine energies, and finding balance, can help you thrive and increase intimacy in your relationship.
Here, you discover how to harness its power in helping you create and maintain a healthy, secure relationship.
MODULE 8
BETTER BOUNDARIES
You'll learn the difference between setting boundaries badly and setting them in such a way so that they build intimacy , show respect for your partner, and you maintain a secure sense of self.
The modules includes
- 6 sub-modules
- 37 videos
- Mindset shifts, handouts & activites
After this module, you’ll have built true inter-dependency.
MODULE 9
YOUR UNMET NEEDS
The raison d'etre of attachment styles. In this final module you don't just get clear on what your needs are but challenge and re-invent them. And, in the process you overcome any personal resistance towards them.
- 5 sub-modules
- 25 videos
- handouts, insights and activities
After this module, you’ll have mastered secure attachment style. You have all the tools and insights you'll ever need.
what if...?
Anxious
- Your love life became better than what you'd imagined it to be?
- Your date/partner was making all the effort?
- You knew how to attract emotionally available partners?
- You found relationships easy and connection even easier?
- You felt uplifted, emotionally resilient and happy?
Avoidant
- You found it easy to find right person that ticks all the boxes?
- Emotional intimacy excited you?
- You knew how to connect without overthinking every LAST thing?
- Relationships became easy for you?
- Felt appreciated, loved and connected?
Fearful
- You knew how to build a stable, fun, intimate relationship?
- Felt safe and secure within yourself and your partner?
- Believed you were worthy and deserving of secure love?
- You knew how to and who to trust with confidence?
- Relaxed, at ease and enjoying all life has to offer?
All The Insights You Need In One Course
Three courses all rolled into one uniquely meeting your needs without compromise
HEY, I'M SHABANA!
I am your Attachment Styles Coach. I am here to help you build secure attachment and healthy relationships.
I know attachment styles intimately.
I believe that not only is everyone capable of being secure, but it is essential to build secure attachment
I was avoidant for the vast majority of my life until a few years ago, I flipped to fearful and anxious BIG TIME. I went from having my emotions under tight control to not having any control at all, from picking flaws in potential partners, to testing them insanely and needing an unhealthy amount of reassurance.
Because that is what insecure attachment does: it sabotages your emotional well-being and negatively shapes your relationship with the very people you are trying to connect with, despite your best efforts.
Knowing how to build secure attachment was a huge game-changer for me and for the people I worked with.
Now, I want to help you experience the same growth.
You deserve secure attachment; you deserve to have a strong sense of self-worth and value, and you deserve fulfilling and happy relationships, without the mental madness.
I look forward -and am so excited- to be helping you on this journey to become a Secure Attacher!
Welcome :-) xx
Shabana not only helped me understand why I was repeatedly facing the same issues in relationships, but also helped me make real progress. And before some of my final sessions with her I actually met someone and have been with him since!
____ Mai, Tokyo, Japan [Anxious]
in a matter of weeks Shabana helped me to do what four therapists and years of therapy hadn’t begun to do Shabana helped me find that secure person within.
____ Briane, USA {Anxious]
After just eight sessions, I saw dramatic changes in my relationship, my work life and how my body reacted to experiences I was able to feel comfort and safety in my body which I had never felt before I am able to...react in a secure way...
____ Emma, UK [Avoidant]
I was a textbook “anxious attached” and wanted to feel more empowered in my life and relationship I was look for a structured program that went above and beyond traditional talk therapy Because of my coaching with Shabana, I’ve found my voice and gained so much confidence I’ve seen several therapists and coaches through the years, and Shabana undoubtedly has helped me evolve the most
____ Casey, NYC, USA
This is the first time in over a decade that I’m in a real relationship and thanks to this program it is BY FAR the most stable relationship I’ve been in. ..
____ Hiwa, NYC, USA (Fearful)
My relationships have never progressed past the 4-month mark. I didn’t hesitate to pick Shabana as my coach, she is so passionate about what she does that she puts her heart and soul into it. On the first date I went on, I noticed a big shift in my behaviour.My journey with her has been worth every penny. As well as being highly experienced and knowledgeable in this area, she is warm, compassionate, and kind which makes the whole experience all the more enjoyable
Sarah, Ireland [Avoidant] *update* now in a long-term relationship!
Over the last 20 years of my life, I have always been in search of self. Shabana gave me the best gift of all, knowing that as screwed up as I felt I was, there was hope, and it was not my fault. Becoming securely attached was a possibility. I learned so much, particularly how to be a better partner without getting lost in the process and while loving myself. It was probably the best gift I gave myself, the hope, the certainty, and the tools she gave to me, are priceless.
-Karina, USA [Avoidant]
I was nervous in my first session, but Shabana immediately made me feel comfortable and was open and engaging. Shabana did a brilliant job coaching me to build my self-esteem and helped me gain self-confidence. She has changed me for the better, and I always remember her and think, what would Shabana advise? I am proud to say I was so inspired that I have gone on to do a counselling psychology course to continue my healing journey and help others just like Shabana helped me! :)
-Samia, UK [Fearful]
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I reached out to Shabana as, being an anxious attachment, I was consumed by my over active mind and judging myself for the way I was thinking and feeling. The most important thing to know about Shabana is her style of coaching - she works on a 10 week intensive basis which gets straight to the root of the problem, provides an understanding of what is going on and provides the tools to get you where you want to be and stay there. This approach has been way better for me than previously on going and drawn out sessions which gave me minimal progress.
-Jess, Australia [Anxious]
I’m so glad I decided to join Shabana’s course on Secure Attachment. I knew I was in a very anxious mindset especially around relationships but I couldn’t find the way out of my repeating patterns. I’d been talking to a therapist one-on-one but I wasn’t getting the practical insights I was looking for. Through this course, I’ve already noticed improvements in myself with regards to self-doubt & boundaries
-Vanessa, Belgium [Anxious]
I bumped into Shabana and her work by sheer accident, if you believe in accidents.
While taking her programme, I was able to see how I was still running from parts of myself. There is so much power and freedom to be able to add that to my repertoire or what I call a game-changer for me. It gave me a new level of freedom within myself and it allowed me to be with others in a more expanded and intimate way. All this within a short 10 weeks.
Shabana and her work is the real deal and anyone thinking of working with her should feel confident in their decision. She delivers tremendous value.
-Erica, USA [Avoidant]
I reached out to Shabana because I had identified I was an avoidant, I had just started a new relationship and was determined not to run away and sabotage it. I was struggling, tired of putting a barrier up and just wanted to lean into my new fun relationship. Because of coaching with Shabana I am able to let go of my constant belief that I am not safe and that I couldn’t fail. I have been more open in my relationship. I am able to recognise my body's emotions, sit in my emotions and react in a secure way. After just EIGHT sessions, I saw DRAMATIC changes in my relationship, my work life and how my body reacted to experiences. I was able to feel comfort and safety in my body which I had NEVER felt before.
Emma, UK [Avoidant]