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SECURE LOVE MADE EASY

YES! I'm SO Ready For Secure Love

without my attachment style getting in the way!

Let’s get real.... HEALING your attachment style is KEY to ending the anxious-avoidant dance & creating secure love.
You'll feel loved and accepted without chasing or pushing people away.

You'll finally feel seen and heard and have amazing emotional intimacy and connection.

And it will ensure your needs are met without making so much effort or feeling that you are too much (cos you're not!)

When it comes down to it, healing your attachment style means your relationship is destined to become consistent, healthier, and way easier.

"For the first time in over 5 years, I am in a happy, committed relationship and feel more myself than I EVER have"

Bridget (Avoidant): She pushed away partners and was deep in her avoidant attachment style. She did the work now in this course, met an amazing man and just had a beautiful baby boy ❤️
But let’s be even more real...
Maybe you've tried therapists, other courses or methods before, and nothing seemed to stick. You're tired of getting your hopes up only to end up back where you started. 💁🏽‍♀️

You might worry that if you change you'll be disconnected from your parter or lose your independence. Perhaps you think you're too complex or broken for this to help.

Or perhaps, you're still skeptical. "Can I really change something so ingrained? Do I have what it takes, the time, the ENERGY?" You might even wonder if it's too late for you.

And here's a big one: "What if I heal and nothing changes? How do I know I'll attract differently or my partner will change even if I do?" 🤔

These doubts are normal.

But here's the truth: healing your attachment style is freeing yourself from attachment patterns that are keeping you stuck and love at bay.

And as for your partner? You'd be AMAZED how often they naturally respond to your changes. (Just check the testimonials - they're FULL of stories where partners shifted too!)❤️

What if...?
  • What if I told you there's there are practical ways to heal your attachment style AND it increases connection or maintains your independence?
  • Or what if you could find ways to stop needing so much re-assurance or become emotionally available and stop pushing partners away?
  • What if you could show up SECURE? 

If any of this sounds impossible, I want you to know that it’s 100% possible for you.

And I know that, because I’ve been exactly where you are now as have 100s of my clients.

And that's why I've created this course.

It brings together five years of experience coaching anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant women (and a few fellas) on creating secure love using My 7-Step Secure Way Method.

I have found EVERY TIME my clients healed their anxious, avoidant or fearful attachment style, their love life magically transformed. 📈

I've distilled all those teachings into this one EPIC course to give you THE tools, insights and skills to make secure love a daily reality for you.

I'M READY TO START!

"It has been feeling like the honeymoon phase with butterflies 🦋

Amna: Anxious Attacher. Transformed her emotionally distant marriage. She did the work (loved Steps 6 & 7!). Now,  her 'avoidant' husband seeks emotional intimacy and is vulnerable 'voluntarily'!"

Introducing…

THE SECURE ATTACHER

My Signature 7-Step Secure Way Method to Create Secure Love Without Sacrificing Your Needs or Your Independence. 

PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
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START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!
PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
$199
START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!
*NEW* $111 * 6 months

Secure Love Notes

When they healed their attachment style, their love life transformed...

SHOW ME THE MODULES!😍
you just need the right tools and insights to finally go...
FROM THIS 🤯
TO THIS🤗
From sending texts as long as your arm telling him what's not working & FIX it already or distancing because you've given up trying 😖
To incredible emotional intimacy where both of you are enjoying deep conversations and spending lots of quality time together.🙃
From frustrated because you don't feel chosen as he's with his friends (again), cancelled OR feeling pressured and suffocated because it's too much 🤦🏽‍♀️
To sharing your day, you or your partner opening up voluntarily, feeling close to each other whether you are together or 1000 miles apart😍
Sneaking a peek @ their phone when they're not looking, starting a fight cos you feel taken advantage of or that they're not truly into you
To waking up feeling happy and excited to spend the day with friends because you're at TOTAL ease in your relationship🥳
Let's make this a daily reality for you...
Imagine …

It's past midnight, and you're still up chatting with your partner. The conversation just flows, and for once, you're not overanalysing every word or gesture or itching to call it a night.

It feels... easy.

You're both opening up about stuff but instead of panicking or shutting down, it actually -perhaps for the first time- feels okay - safe, even. It's weird, but in a good way.

The constant worry about them leaving or feeling trapped? It's just not there anymore. You're just... present 

Your partner gets you now - they know when you need a hug or when you need space. Everything's different. You both learned how to really show up for each other.

Getting over that anxious, fearful or avoidant stuff wasn't a walk in the park, but waaaay easier than you anticipated.

This right here? This feeling?

It's what you've been searching for all along. A relationship where you can be you, they can be them, and it just works.

Healing your attachment style has 💯 been worth it.

So, What is The Secure Attacher Anyways?

 

The Secure Attacher is my proven 7-Step Secure Way Method that teaches you how to HEAL your attachment style & BREAK-UP with the anxious-avoidant dance for good.

It gives you the 7-Step to change or create a relationship with the person you are with or your future partner without sacrificing your needs or your independence. 

Seriously, I don't want to gate-keep this anymore because everyone deserves a healthy and happy relationship. 

By the end of the course, you’ll…

  • You'll gain CLEAR & PRACTICAL insights to heal your attachment style and show up in a secure way.

  • You'll discover EXACTLY what is keeping you in the anxious-avoidant dance which is keeping love at bay AND how to fix it

  • You''ll master strategies to create secure love effortlessly and with way more integrity. 

    ALL this and so MUCH MORE..

No more doing it alone.

No more overthinking. No more second-guessing.

 

I WANT THE 7-STEP METHOD!

"The Mindset Resets of the Secure Attacher course are worth their weight in GOLD"

Rob- Avoidant Attacher who did the work and now is dating The Secure Way.

Let's break it down...the 7-Steps!
STEP ONE

ATTACHMENT STYLE UNLOCKED

HEAL & OVERCOME YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE 🤩

  • This step uncovers the KEY reason your attachment style is activated and has been keeping you in the anxious-avoidant loop. It's not what you think.
  • Shift your approach to a more secure one to end the hot & cold.
  • These insights alone —and previous clients agree—will begin to heal your attachment style and help you start a SECURE approach to your love life.
STEP TWO

MASTERING YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM

BUILD EMOTIONAL SAFETY WITH A REGULATED NERVOUS SYSTEM 🧘🏽‍♀️

  • Recognise how your nervous system signals safety and danger in relationships according your attachment style
  • Gain PRACTICAL tools to soothe your nervous system's reactions so that you can stay calm and connected
  • Create a SOLID foundation for emotional safety so that you can explore intimacy without shutting down or clinging too tightly.
STEP THREE

FROM ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT TO SECURE

RESOLVE THE DANCE AND ESTABLISH A WIN-WIN DYNAMIC🤗 

  • Gain EPIC CLARITY into the deeper dynamics and misconceptions behind this dance
  • Discover the underlying behaviouis cycle AND insights on HOW to break free from it.
  • Explore EFFECTIVE strategies to shift from a cycle of pursuit and withdrawal to build a more stable secure connection
STEP FOUR

BUILD YOUR SECURE IDENTITY

DEFINE EXACTLY WHO YOU ARE & WHY THAT'S KEY TO CREATING SECURE LOVE

This  power-puncher Step helps you:

  • Evaluate your values, what you stand for and why.
  • Define your non-negotiables as an anxious, fearful or attacher so you attract and make choices that align with you.
  • Embody your secure identity so that you can create secure love intentionally and with confidence.
 
STEP FIVE

CONFLICT TO SECURE COMMUNICATION 

SAY HELLO TO CONSISTENCY AND FEELING SEEN & HEARD

  • Recognise the emotions and behaviours that drive conflict for you and your partner's unique attachment style

  • Uncover the secret insight into HOW disagreements can strengthen your connection rather than threaten it.

  • Master new secure communication strategies to bridge the attachment styles, increase empathy and understanding

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STEP SIX

THE SECURE WAY TO USE BOUNDARIES 

EXPRESS BOUNDARIES  TO INCREASE INTIMACY  SELF-AGENCY 😍 

  • Discover when and how to use boundaries as an anxious attacher to stop abandoning yourself AND connect with your partner.
  • Communicate boundaries as an avoidant attacher to maintain independence AND meet your partner's needs.
  • Determine how to use boundaries as a fearful avoidant so that you build safety AND connection.
STEP SEVEN

GET YOUR NEEDS MET

PERFECT THE SKILL TO EXPRESS YOUR NEEDS WITHOUT TRIGGERING OR PUSHING AWAY YOUR PARTNER

  • Learn the real art of expressing needs as an anxious/fearful attacher so your avoidant partner truly hears them.
  • Communicate your needs as avoidant/fearful attacher whilst re-assuring your anxious attacher partner 
  • Experience the TRANSFORMATIVE power of inspiring your partner to meet your needs without you even asking!   
MIND-BLOWN!! I LOVE ALL OF THIS- I'M IN!!🥳!

What graduates of The Secure Attacher Said..

 

...WHAT ELSE MAKES THIS COURSE UNIQUE?
1. NOT A COOKIE-CUTTER STYLE

Simple and clear steps to help you feel more secure in your relationship without digging up old hurts, repeating affirmations. & endless inner child work  This course gives you tools to for changed thinking and behaviour so that you being true to who you are all AND have a secure relationship- with a one-size-doesn't-fit-all approach

2. HUMAN CONVERSATION

If you're looking for yet another course about how to have the perfect conversation starters or canned statements, this isn’t for you. I show you how to communicate with your partner that brings out your personality, not dial it down so that you can have colour, connection and energy.

ATTACHMENT STYLES

Every module. Yes. Every Module has a specific focus on each of the attachment styles: anxious, avoidant and fearful You’ll never again be left wondering if your partner is truly avoidant or fearful or just not that into you. You get eyeballs into your partner's mind so you'll know EXACTLY what they're thinking and feeling.

A NEW APPROACH

If you're willing to actively unlearn what you have been told to do in relationships and apply new skills, you'll see your relationship transform. It will require way LESS effort, way less stress, and you will gain way MORE intimacy (and now just in your intimate relationship). 

START TODAY WITH AS LITTLE AS $199!
PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
$199
START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!
PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
$199
START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!
*NEW* $111 * 6 MONTHS

"This is the first time in over a DECADE that I’m in a REAL relationship, and thanks to this program it is BY FAR the most stable relationship I’ve been in"

Hiwa- worked on her FA tendencies. She was emotionally volatile, and constantly in and out of situationships.  By the end of this course, she was in the most stable relationship she'd ever been in AND healed her relationship with friends and fam.
SHHH. YOU ALSO GET THESE HUGE BONUSES! 🤫
BONUS 1

Worthy of Love

Building self-worth is an essential part of building a secure relationship and making sure you're never stuck in the anxious-avoidant loop again. This bonus step is ESSENTIAL viewing for deeper lasting changes.  

($397 value)

BONUS 2

DATING: Attraction To Commitment

This powerful bonus module is for anxious attachers stuck in situationships or chasing unavailable partners, and avoidant/fearful-avoidant types struggling with commitment. Discover secure attraction strategies to break these patterns for good. Say goodbye to confusing entanglements and hello to healthier relationships.

 ($397 value)

BONUS 3

Feminine & Masculine Energy

Unlock the attachment secrets of attraction with this game-changing bonus module! Discover the nuanced interplay between feminine and masculine energies,. Armed with these insights, you'll radically transform how you show up in the dating world and experience securer connections.

($297 value)
BONUS 4

Q&A with Shabana

Have a question for me about your own situation? Drop it in the comments and I'll get back to ya!

($300 value)
I WANT THE MODULES, THE BONUSES, ALL OF IT!
The Secure Attacher Promise
100% MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE

I'm 100% convinced that you'll love this course and that if applied, changes your life, it gives you a whole new outlook on relationships and how to become secure. 

That's why I'm offering you a 14 day money back guarantee! In the highly unlikely event that you don't love The Secure Attacher 2.0 you can request your money back within 14-days of purchase (need to provide worksheets).

HAVE WE MET?

Hi, I'm Shabana.

YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLES COACH.

I know attachment style intimately.

Ive been stuck in that people-pleasing anxious-avoidant dance and it was not fun.

I also went from an avoidant finding flaws in everyone to secure back to anxious/fearful BIGTIME & screaming matches to boot to secure.

I've seen it all--even my anxious attacher husband struggled with the constant need for re-assurance.

And, I don't sugar things--I take a no-fluff, no BS approach. Sometimes, that means confronting the uncomfortable stuff about ourselves. That might hurt, but it's the good kinda hurts, that make you grow.

With my passion for secure relationships, and attachment styles, I created the Secure Attacher to help other women become Secure.Forever.

I've crafted my signature 7-step Secure Way Method to give you the confidence, the insights, the deeper changes and the sass you need to create secure love.

You will change as a person as you move through this course. I don't doubt it.  

And you will get the love  you deserve: the secure and safe love that makes you weak in the knees.  

Let's go. xx

This is not for you..?

  • You're seeking quick fixes or surface-level advice rather than deep, transformative work.

  • You're focused solely on your partner's behaviour rather than exploring your own  role (or both) in relationships.

  • You're not ready or have the capacity to invest time and effort into improving your attachment style (consider the long-term cost)

This is for you..?

  • You are 💯committed to transforming your attachment style and breaking free from the push-pull dynamics, or fear of true intimacy.

  • You're all in and eager to get really clear on how to attract or build a stable and secure relationship 👊🏽

  • You're READY for a secure kinda love, that's consistent, safe and EASY. No more walking on egg-shells. 🤗 

If any of these sounds like you, hit the join now button 👇🏽, because you’re EXACTLY where you need to be.

JOIN NOW! ❤️💫🥳
What you get _______,

LETS BRING IT TOGETHER!

The ultimate blueprint to achieving secure and lasting love, designed to transform your relationship dynamics in just 6 months.

  • 7 In-depth Modules: practical tools, eye-opening insights, and actionable steps
  • Expert Guidance: 5 years of experience coaching attachment styles
  • Build Secure Attachment: secure ways of thinking, feeling and acting for each attachment style
  • Intimacy Skills:  Your need and desires & inspire your partner to do more so you have secure love
  • Less Fighting: Say goodbye to epic fights and month long stalemates and 
  • Three Bonus Module: Worthy of love, Elevating your Values, Embracing your feminine energy
OMG! I WANT IT ALL!
IF YOU'RE STILL READING...
You may be asking yourself...
"I LOVE the Secure Attacher course! It taught me EVERYTHING about attachment styles, not just the one I was struggling with, which I really appreciate because it helped me better understand those around me! Now, I can confidently say I feel SECURE within"
I'M READY TO START!
The Best Kept Secret Of Secure Relationships...

THE SECURE ATTACHER

I WANT THE BEST-KEPT SECRET!
"I feel like my relationship with my boyfriend now is a more mature version of it. This feels much more real and meaningful and like we’re actually getting somewhere in a relationship versus just talking, guessing and mind-reading"

More Secure  Notes from the course...

I get it...

I get it...


I've been where you are.

Stuck in that frustrating relationship rut, feeling unheard and unsure. I remember thinking, "What is wrong with me?" But also hoping, "Maybe this will finally work."

Let me tell you - it does work. I'm living proof.
This course isn't just another set of tips and tricks. It's a complete transformation. I don't say that to boast, but because I've experienced it myself and seen countless others do the same.

Imagine feeling truly good enough, without constantly seeking approval. Imagine a stable, committed relationship where you feel seen and understood. Imagine what secure attachment feels like. And it's within your reach.

I remember thinking it was impossible to change such deep-rooted patterns. But here I am, enjoying a fulfilling relationship I never thought possible.

This course is what gave me the tools to break free from my attachment patterns and create the connection I always craved. Its secure attachment made easy.

And it can do the same for you.


If you're ready to step into secure love, join me. I'll be here to guide you every step of the way.

See you on the other side…!

 

Shabana XoXo

 

ITS NOW OR NEVER. I'M IN 🙋🏼‍♀️🥁