TEMPLATES
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BREAKUP...

Buuuut, you are ready to break free from the anxious-avoidant dance for good. You ARE ready to cast doubt aside to have the opportunity to experience the deep intimacy and connection you've been yearning for with your partner.  💫

FROM ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT TO SECURE

YES! I'm SO Ready For Secure Love

without the mixed-messages, the overthinking, and walking on eggshells!

I'M IN! $199 GO GO GO! 💨
Let’s get real.... knowing HOW to FIX the anxious-avoidant dance is KEY to deep emotional intimacy & connection
It will help you feel loved and accepted without anyone's attachment style getting in the way.

It will help you create amazing emotional intimacy and connection so that you can finally feel seen and heard.

And it will ensure your needs are met consistently without feeling like you are too much (cos you're not!)

When it comes down to it, mastering the skills to build a secure relationship means your relationship is destined to become easier, healthier, and way more consistent.

"For the first time in over 5 years, I am in a happy, committed relationship and feel more myself than I EVER have"

Bridget (Avoidant): She struggled with intimacy & choosing the wrong partners. She did the work in this course, met an amazing man and just had a beautiful baby boy ❤️
But let’s be even more real...
You've tried a whole host of ways to do this, and they've not been working...

 

No matter how nice you are, or push down your needs you see no meaningful changes ... you feel frustrated, lonely and misunderstood...😖

You’ve spoken to friends & fam (and a therapist or two) and they just say it’s not worth it, you deserve better, but you haven’t come this far into the relationship to just give up on it…🤷🏽‍♀️

If only they could see their actions, they're always so distant, or never reply to your texts or super critical. If only they did the work...

Secretly, you suspect it might be your attachment style that leaves you so disconnected. Maybe you're too needy, or perhaps you're constantly finding flaws, and testing them?  But, if it is that, HOW do you even change it? 

The hot and cold is not just taking a toll on your relationship, but also your mental health.

You're starting to wonder if it's all worth it...

It shouldn’t be this hard...

 

What if...there was another way?
  • What if I told you there's a way to get the deep intimacy and connection you're looking for without making ALL the effort or losing your independence?
  • What if your partner starts to initiate and opens up because he wants not to because he has or you could become more emotionally available?
  • What if you could voice your needs without walking on eggshells, worried it would start a fight or even end the relationship? 

If any of this sounds impossible, I want you to know that it’s 100% possible for you.

And I know that, because I’ve been exactly where you are now as have 100s of my clients.

And that's why I've created this course.

It brings together five years of experience coaching anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant women (and a few fellas) on how to create secure love using My 7-Step Secure Way Method.

This course gives you THE tools, insights and skills to make that a daily reality for you.

I NEED SECURE ATTACHMENT & LOVE!
Introducing…

THE SECURE ATTACHER

Your Roadmap to Secure Love & Emotional Intimacy Without Chasing or Distancing Using My Signature 7-Step Secure Way Method!

PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
$199
START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!
PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
$199
START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!

Secure Love Notes from previous clients...

FROM verges of a breakup, stuck in the anxious-avoidant dance, or resigned to being in a relationship with zero emotional intimacy TO...

I WANT THIS TOO!😍
you just need the right tools and insights to finally go...
FROM THIS 🤯
TO THIS🤗
From sending texts as long as your arm telling him what's not working & FIX it already or distancing because you've given up trying 😖
To incredible emotional intimacy where both of you are enjoying deep conversations and spending lots of quality time together.🙃
From frustrated because you don't feel chosen as he's with his friends (again), cancelled OR feeling pressured and suffocated because it's too much 🤦🏽‍♀️
To sharing your day, you or your partner opening up voluntarily, feeling close to each other whether you are together or 1000 miles apart😍
Sneaking a peek @ their phone when they're not looking, starting a fight cos you KNOW cos you feel take advantage of or not truly into you
To waking up feeling happy and excited to spend the day with friends because you're at TOTAL ease in your relationship🥳
Let's make this a daily reality for you...
Imagine …

You and your partner are up late talking about everything and nothing, just enjoying each other's company. It's easy, it's relaxed.

You can let your guard down.

The emotional intimacy is exactly how you imagined it (if not better!)

And you don't need to worry there'll be sudden changes, being thrown to the curb or having cold feet—it's a pure sense of safety.

It's an AMAZING feeling to finally build a life with someone who lets you be you, supports you and consistently makes an effort. 

Knowing your relationship is a safe container where there is intimacy, consistency and security. 

"The Mindset Resets of the Secure Attacher course are worth their weight in GOLD"

So, What is The Secure Attacher Anyways?

 

The Secure Attacher is my proven 7-Step Secure Way method that teaches you how to BREAK-UP with  the anxious-avoidant dance for good.

It gives you the 7-Step to change or create a secure relationship  with the person you are with or your future partner.

Seriously, I don't want to gate-keep this anymore because everyone deserves a healthy and happy relationship. 

By the end of the course, you’ll…

  • You'll get CLEAR & PRACTICAL ways of attracting and building a stable and committed relationship.

  • You'll know how to connect and inspire your partner to meet and respect your needs effortlessly and with way more integrity. 

  • You'll find ways to communicate where you feel seen and heard without having to use formulaic, scripted, rehearsed language (unless you want to!)

  • You'll learn the true power of your emotions, and thoughts and how they can help you get the relationship you've always deserved. 

    ALL this and so MUCH MORE..

No more doing it alone.

No more overthinking. No more second-guessing.

I WANT THE 7-STEP METHOD
Let's break it down...the 7-Steps!
STEP ONE

GETTING UNSTUCK 

APPROACHING RELATIONSHIPS THE SECURE WAY 🤩

I (re)introduce you to attachment styles and uncover the hidden-force that's been keeping you trapped in that crazy dance of sabotage, avoidance, and clinginess. 

  • Learn how your attachment style is creating the push-pull from the get go and how to stop.
  • Shift your approach to a more secure one to end the hot & cold.
  • These insights alone —and previous clients agree—will begin a whole new SECURE approach to your love life.
STEP TWO

TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR EMOTIONS

DEEP-DIVE INTO THE NERVOUS SYSTEM SO THAT YOU GO FROM TRIGGERED TO TRANQUIL🧘🏽‍♀️

  • Identify what your root triggers are so that your attachment style isn't activated and take over.
  • Release any blocks to emotional intimacy, and emotional unavailability.
  • Respond like a secure attacher where you choose how to respond to different events & your partner 
  • Gain insights into how to stay calm even when your partner distances, blames, or shuts down.

Insights for all three attachment styles to maintain connection with a regulated nervous system ✅

STEP THREE

BUILD YOUR SECURE IDENTITY

KNOW WHO YOU ARE

This  power-puncher Step helps you:

  • Figure out what you want and who you truly are.
  • Know what your non-negotiable  are
  • Embody your true identity so that you only attract secure people, people aligned with you and create secure love intentionally and with confidence.
 
STEP FOUR

FROM PUSH & PULL TO  STABLE & COMMITTED 

DEEP-DIVE INTO THE ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT RELATIONSHIP & TOOLS/REFRAMES TO END IT

  • EPIC CLARITY into whether your partner is pushing away and what else is really going on.
  • Strategies to connect with your partner whatever their attachment style.
  • Learn the EXACT steps and insights on how to increase intimacy more effortlessly
  • FIX the anxious-avoidant dance for good and build a secure relationship so that it's a win-win for both of you.
STEP FIVE

CONFLICT TO COMMUNICATION 

INSIGHTS AND TOOLS TO COMMUNICATE IN A SECURE WAY SO THAT YOUR PARTNER FEELS SAFE

  • Getting super clear about how your communication styles are related to your attachment style.
  • Deep dive into the fear of abandonment and how to overcome it so it doesn't lead to distancing and conflict. 
  • Overcoming defensiveness, stonewalling and criticism that's blocking intimacy connection
  • Learn healthy communication skills that WORK so that you have a much deeper understanding of each other. 

Say hello to consistency and feeling seen and heard.

STEP SIX

THE SECURE WAY TO USE BOUNDARIES 

MY UNIQUE METHOD TO USE BOUNDARIES  TO INCREASE INTIMACY 😍 

  • How to you use boundaries as an anxious attacher to CONNECT with your partner away a.
  • How to use boundaries as an avoidant attacher so that you feel in control and CONNECTED in the relationship
  • How to use boundaries as a fearful avoidant so that you feel build safety and connection.
STEP SEVEN

GET YOUR NEEDS MET

HOW TO GET YOUR NEEDS MET WITHOUT PEOPLE-PLEASING

  • Learn the real art of expressing needs as an anxious attacher so that your avoidant partner truly hears them.
  • How to express your needs as avoidant or fearful attacher so your anxious partner feels accepted.
  • Experience the transformative power of inspiring your partner to meet your needs so that you both feel cherished.   

You and your partner feel like you're in a relationship where you both feel you are cherished, loved and respected.

MIND-BLOWN!! I LOVE ALL OF THIS- I'M IN!!🥳!

What graduates of The Secure Attacher Said..

 

...WHAT ELSE MAKES THIS COURSE UNIQUE?
1. NOT A COOKIE-CUTTER STYLE

Simple and clear steps to help you feel more secure in your relationship without digging up old hurts, repeating affirmations. & endless inner child work  This course gives you tools to for changed thinking and behaviour so that you being true to who you are all AND have a secure relationship- with a one-size-doesn't-fit-all approach

2. HUMAN CONVERSATION

If you're looking for yet another course about how to have the perfect conversation starters or canned statements, this isn’t for you. I show you how to communicate with your partner that brings out your personality, not dial it down so that you can have colour, connection and energy.

ATTACHMENT STYLES

Every module. Yes. Every Module has a specific focus on each of the attachment styles: anxious, avoidant and fearful You’ll never again be left wondering if your partner is truly avoidant or fearful or just not that into you. You get eyeballs into your partner's mind so you'll know EXACTLY what they're thinking and feeling.

A NEW APPROACH

If you're willing to actively unlearn what you have been told to do in relationships and apply new skills, you'll see your relationship transform. It will require way LESS effort, way less stress, and you will gain way MORE intimacy (and now just in your intimate relationship). 

START TODAY WITH AS LITTLE AS $199!
PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
$199
START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!
PAY IN FULL
$555
GIVE ME FULL ACCESS!
3 EASY PAYMENTS OF
$199
START MODULE 1-4 TODAY!

"This is the first time in over a DECADE that I’m in a REAL relationship, and thanks to this program it is BY FAR the most stable relationship I’ve been in"

SHHH. YOU ALSO GET THESE HUGE BONUSES! 🤫
BONUS 1

Worthy of Love

Building self-worth is an essential part of building a secure relationship and making sure you're never stuck in the anxious-avoidant loop again. This bonus step is ESSENTIAL viewing for deeper lasting changes.  

($397 value)

BONUS 2

DATING: Attraction To Commitment

This is HUGE bonus module for the anxious attacher who keeps ending up in situationships, chasing emotionally unavailable people and done with mixed messages. Or you're an avoidant/fearful-avoidant struggling with commitment issues. Let's make sure you get a good start and attract the secure way so you never end up in these head fudge sits again. 

 ($397 value)

BONUS 3

Feminine & Masculine Energy

This dishy bonus module teaches you the differences between the feminine and masculine and why you need to know that. It changes how you show up in a much more profound way. 

($297 value)
I WANT THE MODULES, THE BONUSES, ALL OF IT!
BONUS 4

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($197 value)
ENROLL IN COURSE TODAY!
The Secure Attacher Promise
100% MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE

I'm 100% convinced that you'll love this course and that if applied, changes your life, it gives you a whole new outlook on relationships and how to become secure. 

That's why I'm offering you a 14 day money back guarantee! In the highly unlikely event that you don't love The Secure Attacher 2.0 you can request your money back within 14-days of purchase (need to provide worksheets).

HAVE WE MET?

Hi, I'm Shabana.

YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLES COACH.

I know attachment style intimately.

Ive been stuck in that people-pleasing anxious-avoidant dance and it was not fun.

I also went from an avoidant finding flaws in everyone to secure back to anxious/fearful BIGTIME & screaming matches to boot to secure.

I've seen it all--even my anxious attacher husband struggled with the constant need for re-assurance.

And, I don't sugar things--I take a no-fluff, no BS approach. Sometimes, that means confronting the uncomfortable stuff about ourselves. That might hurt, but it's the good kinda hurts, that make you grow.

With my passion for secure relationships, and attachment styles, I created the Secure Attacher to help other women become Secure.Forever.

I've crafted my signature 7-step Secure Way Method to give you the confidence, the insights, the deeper changes and the sass you need to create secure love.

You will change as a person as you move through this course. I don't doubt it.  

And you will get the love  you deserve: the secure and safe love that makes you weak in the knees.  

Let's go. xx

This is not for you..?

  • If you want to stay up late at night figuring creative ways to get his attention. If only he could see your value...

  • You love the drama, the mixed-messages, and the mental drain...

  • You want to sit in the frustration, the disappointment with your attachment style in charge. 

This is for you..?

  • You want to show up secure attachment

  • You're all in and eager to get really clear on how to attract and build a stable and secure relationship 👊🏽

  • You're READY for a secure kinda love, that's consistent, safe and stable. No more walking on egg-shells. 🤗 

If any of these sounds like you, hit the join now button 👇🏽, because you’re EXACTLY where you need to be.

JOIN NOW! ❤️💫🥳
What you get _______,

LETS BRING IT TOGETHER!

The ultimate blueprint to achieving secure and lasting love, designed to transform your relationship dynamics in just 6 months.

  • 7 In-depth Modules: practical tools, eye-opening insights, and actionable steps
  • Expert Guidance: 5 years of experience coaching attachment styles
  • Build Secure Attachment: secure ways of thinking, feeling and acting for each attachment style
  • Intimacy Skills:  Your need and desires & inspire your partner to do more so you have secure love
  • Less Fighting: Say goodbye to epic fights and month long stalemates and 
  • Three Bonus Module: Worthy of love, Elevating your Values, Embracing your feminine energy
OMG! I WANT IT ALL!
IF YOU'RE STILL READING...
You may be asking yourself...
"I LOVE the Secure Attacher course! It taught me EVERYTHING about attachment styles, not just the one I was struggling with, which I really appreciate because it helped me better understand those around me! Now, I can confidently say I feel SECURE within"
I'M READY TO START!
The Best Kept Secret Of Secure Relationships...

THE SECURE ATTACHER

I WANT THE BEST-KEPT SECRET!
"I feel like my relationship with my boyfriend now is a more mature version of it. This feels much more real and meaningful and like we’re actually getting somewhere in a relationship versus just talking, guessing and mind-reading"

More Secure  Notes from the course...

I get it...

I get it.

You're tired of being the same old rut in your relationship(s).

You're tired of feeling frustrated, unsure, or unheard, and...perhaps you're also tired of doing the work.

You might be thinking, "One more thing I have to do?" Or you could also be excited thinking maybe this will be the thing that finally works."

And if so, you are right.

I'm here to tell you that this course will work, if applied. 

This course is different.

I don't say that to boast, I say it because clients have said the same thing. I say it because relationships the secure way means a stable, committed and fulfilling relationship. This is not just another set of tips, tricks and techniques.

Imagine feeling like you're good enough or you're doing enough. 

Imagine secure love. Imagine feeling seen, heard, and understood by your partner without having to constantly prove yourself or seek approval.

Imagine you creating all of that, and not doubting your ability to create it. 

This course is designed to help you achieve just that and more.

If you're ready to take the step towards a secure, more connected relationship, then join me!

See you on the other side…!

 

S xx

 

ITS NOW OR NEVER. I'M IN 🙋🏼‍♀️🥁