Secure Love.Finally.
How to Attract and Sustain a Secure Relationship in Six Months.
It's time to roll up our sleeves, and crack the cupid code once 'n' for all to secure the relationship you deserve.
It's nothing short of an enigma.
It's SO great at the beginning, it couldn't get better..
It's like a honeymoon on steroids.
But something. HAPPENS. quickly. It's like a spontaneous combustion.
You're now two bulls locked in a relentless push-pull cycle with INTENSE highs and lows
cue.the loooong text messages...the no text messages, the EPIC fights, the makeup, the shutdown, the break-up(s).
the chase, the avoidance, the self-sabotage
When did it change? How did it change?
It is gruelling.
You desperately hoped THIS time it would be different, but it's become all too familiar.
You begin to wonder why you keep pulling this shit.
Keep the faith.
We're gonna fix this. Together. Forever.
and I know you've tried everything...and somehow it made it worse
Therapy, journalling, "I feel" statements, therapy again
Affirmations, tapping, yoga, somatic stuff, trying to surrender to 'what is'
every relationship book, including the attachment ones that you can lay your eyes on (and get for free from kindle). Online courses.
CBT, DBT, EMDR, and a whole psych soup of acronyms
you tried looong conversations to fix your relationship and/or you're tired of [same] conversations to fix your relationship
Asking for your needs in a trillion different ways, and meeting their needs in a trillion different ways. It's never enough.
Sleepless nights, waking up bleary-eyed in the morning and finding yourself right back to square one or worse.
you know that more is possible, that you can have the love and intimacy you're looking for.
Don't give up. You're SO close.
you just need the right tools and insights to finally go from...
RELATIONSHIP ROLLERCOASTER TO STABLE & SECURE
imagine
Being in a relationship where both people are making an equal effort and you both feel loved & supported.
Feeling super secure of yourself, the value you bring, confident that you are in a great relationship and YOU are great partner.
Knowing your relationship is a safe container which is intimate, safe and healthy.
Chilled out, full of ease, and calmness because conflict is easy and getting your needs met is not that hard either.
INTRODUCING
THE SECURE ATTACHER
A blueprint to secure love so that you never need to chase, avoid or sabotage ever again
"For the first time in over 5 years, I am in a happy, committed relationship and feel more myself than I EVER have"
Bridget, USA [Avoidant] struggled with severe avoidant tendencies and pushed away partners or chose unhealthy ones. She was overthinking EVERYTHING. She did the work, became secure, and on the way met an amazing man, got married and the whole shebang.She is ALWAYS smiling * UPDATE* she just had a baby :-)
MODULES
MODULE #1
THE SECURE WAY
I uncover the real reason why you keep attracting the wrong person or are stuck in an unhealthy relationship dynamics. This insight alone -and previous clients agree - totally alters how you approach your love life. You'll never again fear choosing the wrong person or you'll end the cycle of constantly attempting to fix your current relationship
MODULE #2
CALM NERVOUS SYSTEM
You'll learn insights and tools to regulate your nervous system and regain control over your thoughts, emotions and responses. You'll learn to handle triggers like an expert during the fight and flight mode which is the best way to navigate anger, jealousy or shutdown so that you don't damage your relationship.
MODULE #3
ATTRACTION TO COMMITMENT
A game-changing module as you learn how to stop your insecurities that are silently (or loudly) sabotaging your love life—a topic often overlooked. You will learn actionable and secure methods to attract and commit to emotionally available partners or become emotionally available. Plus, you'll discover how your attachment style can be a powerful ally in your search for love.
MODULE 4
PUSH-PULL NO-MORE
A DEEP dive into what is really happening in the anxious-avoidant dynamic (it's not what you think!) and learn my EXACT steps and insights on how to create a secure partnership where it's a win-win for everyone!.
MODULE 5
CONFLICT TO COMMUNICATION
Say goodbye to huge arguments, stalemates and the loooong silences. Say hello to consistency, communication and intimacy. You'll get really clear on your conflict style and learn practical and healthier ways to navigate conflict. We go deeper still so that you can prevent conflicts in the first place. Plus, never-seen-before communication templates so you both feel safe, seen and heard.
MODULE 6
BETTER BOUNDARIES
Learn my signature method for setting boundaries that builds intimacy AND your self-worth . You'll learn insider methods to setting boundaries that not only stops people-pleasing in it's tracks but also captivate your (potential) partner's attention, attraction and further commitment. It's SO juicy.
MODULE 7
GET YOUR NEEDS MET
You'll learn the art of articulating your needs enabling you to express them in a way that is clear and ensure your partner truly hears them. No more feeling overwhelmed, abandoned, or distant. You will experience the transformative power of getting your needs met, where both you and your partner feel respected, validated, and prioritised.
GRADUATE SECURE ATTACHERS ...
OOOH BONUSES!
BONUS #1
WORTHY OF LOVE
My gift to you. Wave goodbye to the self-doubt and insecurities for good. We cultivate an unshakable sense of self-value and internal validation. Get ready to experience a new level of self-confidence and self-assurance.
BONUS 2!
INFUSE YOUR INNER COMPASS
This short but power puncher bonus revolutionises you, your life and your relationships. You'll become your own North Star as your decide how to be more intentional, know with complete clarity your value and begin to embody your true identity (that's been dormant all these years). You'll become a magnet for genuine, healthy, wonderful people.
BONUS MODULE 3
EMBRACE YOUR FEMININE ENERGY
This delectably dishy bonus module teaches you how to embrace your feminine energy and harness its power so that you feel cherished, loved and taken care of by a masculine man. Plus, we get inside a man's brain to know what's really on his mind.
what if ...?
Anxious Attachers
- Your love life became better than you imagined?
- Your date/partner is making all the effort without you initiating it?
- Emotionally unavailable partners were a thing of the past?
- You no longer scoured for rejection and were besieged by the fear of your partner leaving?
- No longer needed any re-assurance, felt secure within yourself and connected to your partner?
Avoidant Attachers
- You found it easy to find the right person that ticks all the boxes?
- Emotional intimacy and vulnerability became safe and not so scary?
- You knew how to connect without overthinking every LAST thing?
- No longer focused on what is going wrong and saw what was right?
- Feeling you can be yourself completely and feel connected?
Fearful Attachers
- You were no longer afraid of sabotaging your relationship
- Felt safe within yourself & your partner
- Know how to listen and empathise without becoming defensive
- You knew how to and who to trust with confidence
- Calmer, balanced and resilient
HEY, I'M SHABANA!
I am your Attachment Styles Coach. I am here to help you build secure attachment so you can finally say "I'm a Secure Attacher!"
I know attachment styles intimately.
I believe that not only is everyone capable of being secure, but it is essential to build secure attachment
I went from picking flaws in potential partners, to testing them insanely and needing an unhealthy amount of reassurance. I went from having my emotions under tight control to not having any control at all. I kept everyone at an arm's distance but had the seemingly perfect life.
I thought something was wrong with me. Why couldn't I pick someone and be done with it? And when I picked someone why couldn't it work out for me?
I had no idea that I was avoidant. Im proud to be one of the first people to really cast a light on the avoidant experience. And then along came my husband, and I flipped to fearful and anxious BIG TIME.
Because that is what insecure attachment does: it sabotages your emotional well-being and negatively shapes your relationship with the very people you are trying to connect with, despite your best efforts.
Knowing how to build secure attachment was a huge game-changer for me and for the people I worked with.
Now, I want to help you experience the same growth.
You deserve secure attachment; you deserve to have a strong sense of self-worth and value, and you deserve fulfilling and happy relationships, without the mental madness.
I look forward -and am so excited- to be helping you on this journey to become a Secure Attacher!
Welcome :-) xx
The Last Course You Will Ever Need On Secure Love.
This is the first time in over a decade that I’m in a real relationship and thanks to this program it is BY FAR the most stable relationship I’ve been in. ..
____ Hiwa, NYC, USA (Fearful)
...not only helped me understand why I was repeatedly facing the same issues in relationships, but also helped me make real progress. And before some of my final sessions with her I actually met someone and have been with him since!
____ Mai, Tokyo, Japan [Anxious]
in a matter of weeks Shabana helped me to do what four therapists and years of therapy hadn’t begun to do Shabana helped me find that secure person within.
____ Briane, USA {Anxious]
I saw dramatic changes in my relationship, my work life and how my body reacted to experiences I was able to feel comfort and safety in my body which I had never felt before I am able to...react in a secure way...
____ Emma, UK [Avoidant]
I was a textbook “anxious attached” and wanted to feel more empowered in my life and relationship I was look for a structured program that went above and beyond traditional talk therapy Because of my coaching with Shabana, I’ve found my voice and gained so much confidence I’ve seen several therapists and coaches through the years, and Shabana undoubtedly has helped me evolve the most
____ Casey, NYC, USA
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THE SECURE ATTACHER
My relationships have never progressed past the 4-month mark. On the first date I went on, I noticed a big shift in my behaviour.My journey with her has been worth every penny.
Sarah, Ireland [Avoidant] *update* now in a long-term relationship!
It was the best gift I gave myself, the hope, the certainty, and the tools she gave to me, are priceless.
-Karina, USA [Avoidant]
..build my self-esteem and helped me gain self-confidence. She has changed me for the better, I have (now) gone on to do a counselling psychology course to continue my healing journey and help others :)
-Samia, UK [Fearful]
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Shabana...works on a 10 week intensive basis which gets straight to the root of the problem, provides an understanding of what is going on and provides the tools to get you where you want to be and stay there. This approach has been way better for me.
-Jess, Australia [Anxious]
I’d been talking to a therapist one-on-one but I wasn’t getting the practical insights I was looking for. Through this course, I’ve already noticed improvements in myself with regards to self-doubt & boundaries
-Vanessa, Belgium [Anxious]
While taking her programme.It gave me a new level of freedom within myself and it allowed me to be with others in a more expanded and intimate way. All this within a short 10 weeks.
-Erica, USA [Avoidant]
I am able to let go of my constant belief that I am not safe and that I couldn’t fail. I have been more open in my relationship. I am able to recognise my body's emotions, sit in my emotions and react in a secure way. After just EIGHT sessions, I saw DRAMATIC changes in my relationship, my work life and how my body reacted to experiences. I was able to feel comfort and safety in my body which I had NEVER felt before.
Emma, UK [Avoidant]
It is time to...
Build Secure Attachment
Get really CLEAR on the underlying issues that are preventing you from attracting the right partner and having a successful relationship (they're not what you think!).
Overcome your attachment anxiety and fears and create a loving, lasting healthy relationship.
Learn EXACTLY how to build relationships that are based on trust, vulnerability and mutual understanding.
Protect your psychological and emotional safety and ensure that your needs are also met.
Express clear boundaries and communicate so that it DEEPENS intimacy and connection.
Be self-assured in what YOU have to offer in a relationship.
manage your thoughts, emotions AND respond to your partner in a loving way .
Are you ready to take the final step towards secure love?