YOU DON'T NEED TO KEEP STARTING OVER ⬇️
You need to learn HOW to show up SECURELY so that you can break free from the exhausting push & pull cycle (Pssst this is the EXACT method that's helped my relationship become the healthiest version of itself and hundreds of my clients do the same!)
ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT NO MORE!

I'm SO Ready For The Roadmap To A Stable & Consistent Relationship 

without clinging, pushing away or self-sabotaging.

Let’s get real.... mastering HOW to SHOW-UP securely is key to a healthy relationship that's built to last

You'll no longer need to chase or distance just to feel loved and accepted 

It will ensure you know how to communicate so that your needs are met without making all the effort or feeling that you are too much (cos you're not!)

You'll know how to stay calm and in control so you don't spend days in bed, your phone on silent, or screaming at the top of your lungs that you've had enough.

When it comes down to it having the skills to show up securely means your relationships are destined to become consistent, healthier, and EASIER.

She had all but given up on relationships:

"For the first time in over 5 years, I am in a happy, committed relationship and feel more myself than I EVER have"

 
Bridget: She thought she would never find healthy love. The Secure Attacher gave her the tools to open up and create the deep connection she secretly craved. She met an amazing man and just had a beautiful baby boy ❤️
I know what it's like...
...trying to do ALL the things you can to create a connection with your partner

😖 You're walking on eggshells, pushing down your needs so hard, saying 'yes' when you want to say no. It's like you're terrified one wrong move could end the relationship...

😖 You've trying to be "perfect", say, text and do all the right things but it still doesn't seem to get you closer to what you want. How do you get your needs met without over-giving & sacrificing?

😖 You focus on the gratitude stuff the therapist recommended but it's not working and you are more lonely and disconnected. Maybe you're doing it wrong?

😖 You've tried the "I feel statements" till you're blue in the face, begged him for those morning texts, which work for all but three days. How do you express yourself without driving them away?

😖 And while you desperately want your partner to change, be more open up and show up consistently, their hot-and-cold behaviour keeps you in a constant state of stress. You don't want to spend years in this emotional limbo - or worse, lose the connection altogether

Exhausting. Overwhelming. Draining.

You end up constantly trying to figure out whether it's you or them, having huge fights followed by days of radio silence and sending them vids of how they're emotionally unavailable. You had had such high dreams of your relationship. 🥺

Is this really how building a loving relationship should feel?

What if...?
  • What if your partner started opening up to you voluntarily and became emotionally available without you pushing them so hard? 

  • What if all of your conversations turned into deeper connections and got you closer relationships without losing yourself?

  • What if there was a way to break these patterns, communicate effectively, and create the stable relationship you signed up for - without ever trying to change your partner or yourself?

If any of this sounds impossible, I want you to know that it’s 100% possible for you.

And I know that, because I’ve been exactly where you are now as have 100s of my clients.

And that's why I've created this course.

It's PROVEN step-by-step roadmap to transform your to love life and help you create the secure, fulfilling relationship you've always wanted...

All from an Attachment Style Relationship Coach who's helped 100s of women just like you using My 7-Step Secure Way Method.

It uses the perfect mix of attachment theory and practical strategies that:

⚡️HELPS YOU EXPRESS YOURSELF SO THAT YOUR PARTNER JUST GETS YOU - THE FIRST TIME

⚡️ TEACHES YOU HOW TO COMMUNICATE INSPIRING OPENNESS IN YOUR PARTNER

⚡️ AND GUIDES YOU TOWARDS BUILDING A SECURE RELATIONSHIP SO THAT YOU FEEL SEEN, HEARD AND UNDERSTOOD 

It works for EVERY attachment style {no, seriously, it really does - I will guide you through specific strategies tailored to your unique attachment needs}...

 

I'M READY TO START! 🎉
Introducing…

THE SECURE ATTACHER

The Complete Roadmap To A Healthy, Stable and Consistent Relationship Without Sacrificing Your Needs or Losing Your Freedom.

...The Secure Attacher is my signature 7-Step Secure Way Method to help you create consistent and stable love by building a secure attachment style. This'll transform your love life forever.

 

LET ME SHOW YOU WHAT I MEAN ⬇️

The Secure Attacher will help you to go... ...
FROM THIS 🤯
TO THIS🤗
Frantically typing out a novel-length text about their short "ok" reply. Accusing them that they don't care about you anymore!
Knowing EXACTLY how to communicate so that you can show up authentically and create a deeper connection 💖
From spiralling cos they've not called or they've cancelled yet again and now you're plotting your escape plan. 😖 🤦🏽‍♀️
Your partner planning date nights, opening up, and planning special weekends to spend time with you without saying a word about it! 🙃
You're tossing and turning after another argument about quality time together and your partner's response "We see each other every day!"
Resolving conflicts so smoothly you both feel more in love after disagreements, in less time than it takes to watch a Bridgerton episode!🥳
IT'S TIME TO FIX THIS!

Amna healed her anxious attachment style, which transformed her emotionally distant marriage back to "the honeymoon phase". Her once avoidant husband now is vulnerable willingly!"⬇️

Let's break it down...the 7-Steps!
STEP ONE

ATTACHMENT STYLE UNLOCKED

Becoming unstuck from your attachment style 

  • Uncover the fantasy that keeps fuelling your attachment style that's creating havoc in your relationship (it's not what you think!) 
  • Shift your approach to a more secure one so that you stop clinging or pushing your partner away without realising. 
  • Discover the game-changing insights that previous clients swear by to kick-start a more stable love life
STEP TWO

MASTERING THE NERVOUS SYSTEM

Create emotional stability and calmness from within 🧘🏽‍♀️

  • Decode the hidden 'danger' signals your attachment style sends to the body, activating you or your partner's fight-or-flight response.

  • Say hello to practical tools that keep you calm even in heated moments so you don't say things you later regret!

  • Transform your reactions from triggering to tuned-in, creating the emotional safety and balance you've always craved in relationships.

STEP THREE

ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT TO SECURE

Break-free from the dance and get a win-win🤗

  • Uncover the surprising truth that is continuing the anxious-avoidant dance that's leaves you feeling unfulfilled and misunderstood
  • Gain tools to end the exhausting chase-and-withdraw pattern so that you create closeness effortlessly!
  • Form a balanced, secure relationship where you and your partner feel seen, heard, and valued.
STEP FOUR

BUILD YOUR SECURE IDENTITY

Become truly inter-dependent.

  • Uncover your secure self beyond ingrained attachment behaviours so you don't over-give and push down your needs again.
  • Define your core values and non-negotiable creating healthy standards in your relationship that align with your authentic self.
  • Build an unshakeable foundation of self-confidence that supports you in all your relationships not just your intimate one.
 
STEP FIVE

CONFLICT TO HEALTHY COMMUNICATION 

Transform arguments into opportunities for growth and connection . 

  • Identify your conflict style according to your attachment style and learn how to defuse them before they explode into major fights

  • Turn those dreaded "we need to talk"  or : "I feel statements" moments into chances for deeper understanding and connection.

  • Feel a sense of relief as you master the art of "True Empathy & Curiosity" so that it increases understanding and closeness with ease!

.

STEP SIX

BOUNDARIES AS A BRIDGE

Set limits without spiralling into guilt or pushing your partner away! 

  • Set boundaries as an anxious attacher so skillfully your partner thanks you for it!
  • Learn the exact words to use when you need space, so your anxious partner feels reassured instead of rejected
  • Relish the peace as a fearful avoidant, confident your boundary-setting skills create both safety AND deep connection!
STEP SEVEN

GET YOUR NEEDS MET

..WITHOUT OVER-GIVING  

  • Learn the real art of expressing needs as an anxious/fearful attacher so your avoidant partner truly hears them.
  • Overcome the paralysing fear of asking for what you want clearly as a fearful or avoidant attacher 
  • Feel deep fulfilment and closeness as you experience the power of both partners' needs being understood and met   
I WANT NEED ALL OF THIS ⚡️

What graduates of The Secure Attacher said...

 

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BONUS 1

Worthy of Love

This game-changing bonus on self-worth isn't just another pep talk - it's a deep dive into rewiring your brain. Through powerful exercises and aha-moment insights, you'll transform how you see yourself and feel in your bones that you're worthy of amazing, respectful love.

($397 value)

BONUS 2

DATING: Attraction To Commitment

This powerful bonus module is for anxious attachers stuck in situationships and chasing unavailable partners, and for avoidant/fearful-avoidant types struggling with commitment issues. Discover secure attraction strategies to break these patterns for good. Say goodbye to confusing entanglements and hello to healthier relationships.

 ($397 value)

BONUS 3

Feminine & Masculine Energy

Discover the nuanced interplay between feminine and masculine energies in this game-changing bonus module! Armed with these insights of the male and female brain, you'll radically transform how you show up in your love life.

($297 value)
BONUS 4

Q&A with Shabana

Have a question for me about your own situation? Drop it in the comments and I'll get back to ya!

($297 value)
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"I feel like my relationship with my boyfriend now is a more mature version of it. This feels much more real and meaningful and like we’re actually getting somewhere in a relationship versus just talking, guessing and mind-reading"
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Love Notes...

When they became a Secure Attacher, their love life transformed...

Imagine …

😍  Navigating your relationship with such confidence and ease that no matter what challenges you face, you know how to handle it

😍 Your partner waiting for you to come home, excited to share their day because your connection is just that strong now.

😍 Staying calm during heated moments surprising your partner, who also stays engaged and open to finding solutions together! 

😍 Expressing yourself authentically, saying 'no' when you need to, and your desires when you want to knowing your relationship can handle it!

😍Communicating in a way so that your partner understands and gets you without the fear of appearing needy. 

😍Ending the exhausting cycle of push-pull. The huge fights and silent treatments have ended.  You're having productive conversations that bring you closer.

😍You're no longer left wondering if it's you or them - you've developed a clear understanding of your needs and your partner's behaviour.

😍 Feeling so secure and confident in your relationship, free from the need to analyse your partner's every word or action for hidden meanings.

THIS RIGHT HERE?

This is what you've been searching for all along  You can be you, and they can be them, (warts 'n' all) and it works.

Becoming The Secure Attacher has been  💯 worth it ⬇️
So, What is The Secure Attacher Anyways?

 

The Secure Attacher is my proven 7-Step Secure Way Method that teaches you how to HEAL your attachment style & BREAK-UP with the anxious-avoidant dance for good.

It gives you my 7-Step Method to create a relationship securely that you longer need to sacrifice your needs or lose your independence.

Seriously, I don't want to gate-keep this anymore because everyone deserves a healthy and happy relationship. 

By the end of the course, you’ll…

  • You'll gain CLEAR & PRACTICAL insights to heal your attachment style and show up in a secure way.

  • You'll discover EXACTLY what is keeping you in the anxious-avoidant dance which is keeping love at bay AND how to fix it

  • You''ll master strategies to create secure love effortlessly and with way more integrity. 

    ALL this and so MUCH MORE..

No more doing it alone.

No more overthinking. No more second-guessing.

 

I WANT THE 7-STEP METHOD!

"The Mindset Resets of the Secure Attacher are worth their weight in GOLD"

Rob- Avoidant Attacher who did the work and now is dating The Secure Way.

...WHAT ELSE MAKES THIS COURSE UNIQUE?
1. NOT A COOKIE-CUTTER STYLE

Simple and clear steps to help you feel more secure in your relationship without digging up old hurts, repeating affirmations. & endless inner child work  This course gives you tools to for changed thinking and behaviour so that you being true to who you are all AND have a secure relationship- with a one-size-doesn't-fit-all approach

2. HUMAN CONVERSATION

If you're looking for yet another course about how to have the perfect conversation starters or canned statements, this isn’t for you. I show you how to communicate with your partner that brings out your personality, not dial it down so that you can have colour, connection and energy.

The Secure Attacher Promise
100% MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE

I'm 100% convinced that you'll LOVE this course!

That's why I'm offering you a 14-day money-back guarantee!

In the highly unlikely event that you don't love The Secure Attacher you can request your money back within 14-days of purchase and get a full refund!

No questions asked!

ATTACHMENT STYLES

Every module. Yes. Every Module has a specific focus on each of the attachment styles: anxious, avoidant and fearful You’ll never again be left wondering if your partner is truly avoidant or fearful or just not that into you. You get eyeballs into your partner's mind so you'll know EXACTLY what they're thinking and feeling.

A NEW APPROACH

If you're willing to actively unlearn what you have been told to do in relationships and apply new skills, you'll see your relationship transform. It will require way LESS effort, way less stress, and you will gain way MORE intimacy (and now just in your intimate relationship). 

She had been on-off relationships for 10 years: 

"This is the first time in over a DECADE that I’m in a REAL relationship, and thanks to this program it is BY FAR the most stable relationship I’ve been in"

Hiwa-Fearful Avoidant -Secure
HAVE WE MET?

Hi, I'm Shabana.

YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLES COACH.

I'm your go-to girl for all things attachment styles, relationship transformation, and making your love life as secure and fulfilling as possible.

I've been navigating the complex world of attachment styles since 2016 and today I've helped countless women transform their relationships and find secure love.

But it wasn't always like that:

When I first started my journey, I was stuck in the anxious-avoidant trap. I was a fearful-avoidant, constantly walking on eggshells, and pushing down my needs (or demanding them so hard) I could barely breathe.

After years of this exhausting cycle, I hit rock bottom with screaming matches, silent treatments, and a relationship that was hanging by a thread.

It was soul-crushing, but once I learned how to become securely attached, my relationships, my life and I transformed dramatically.

Since 2019, I've focused exclusively on attachment styles and relationship coaching. 

Now, I can't wait to share my 7-Step Secure Way Method, powerful communication strategies, and proven relationship insights and tools with you.

So that you get the love you deserve: the secure and safe love that makes you weak in the knees. 

You ready?

Let's go. xx

 Get your Secure Attacher Roadmap now and navigate the path to a healthy relationship every single day with ease and confidence 

YES! I NEVER WANT TO WASTE MY TIME ON RELATIONSHIPS AGAIN!

Is this you?

  • You're tired of feeling like you're always on an emotional rollercoaster, analysing every text and interaction and wondering why your parter doesn't care?

  • You're trying so hard, on the defensive or looking out for warning signs, because there's no real consistency to your relationship...

  • You are exhausted from the constant worry of the relationship suddenly ending or wondering if you're even in the right relationship?

  • You have so much love to give, and you know you're worth so much more, but building a lasting relationship feels like an uphill battle.

  • You are burnt out from the push-pull dance, and you're ready to finally make relationships feel easy, stress-free, genuine and secure?

If any of these sounds like you, hit the join now button 👇🏽, because you’re EXACTLY where you need to be.

I WANT TO JOIN RIGHT NOW! ❤️💫🥳
What you get _______,

LETS BRING IT TOGETHER!

The Secure Attacher: Your Complete Roadmap to a Healthy, Stable, and Consistent Relationship, plus my proven 7-Step Secure Way Method, 4 powerful bonuses to supercharge your transformation and so much more...

  • 7-Step Secure Way Method (Value $997)
  • BONUS 1:  Worthy of Love  (Value $397)
  • BONUS 2: Attraction To Commitment (Value $397)
  • BONUS 3: Feminine & Masculine Energy (Value $297)
  • BONUS 4 Q&A with Shabana (Value $297)
  • Expert Guidance: 5 years of experience coaching attachment styles (Value $297)
  • Tools, insights, exercises, meditations, subconscious work and more.. (value $397)  

ALL OF THIS FOR $3,376 

ONLY $555 (or start $199 today)

OMG! I WANT IT ALL!

"I LOVE the Secure Attacher course!

It taught me EVERYTHING about attachment styles, not just the one I was struggling with, which I really appreciate because it helped me better understand those around me!

Now, I can confidently say I feel SECURE within."

Jalila- Anxious Attacher- Secure 

IF YOU'RE STILL READING...
You may be asking yourself...

HOW MUCH ARE YOU MISSING OUT ON EVERY DAY BECAUSE YOU'RE STUCK IN THE PUSH-PULL BUT DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET OUT?

I’ve transformed my own relationships using the 7-Step Secure Way Method inside this course, and I’ve seen countless others do the same.

Inside The Secure Attacher, I will show you how to break free from anxious-avoidant patterns and create a stable, SECURE and loving relationship so that you feel seen, heard, and understood.

Whether you’re anxious, fearful or avoidant stuck in a cycle of push and pull, o just a gal looking for love this course will give you the tools to transform your relationships (AND maybe even your life!)

Are you READY to experience the freedom and joy that secure attachment brings and get the love and connection you deserve?

See you on the other side…!

 

Shabana XoXo

 

I'M IN, I'M IN, I'M IN!!!🙋🏼‍♀️🥁