INTIMACY WITH AN AVOIDANT MADE EASY
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This is your era of being the woman he can't imagine his life without.
I am working on something that changes the way women in anxious-avoidant relationships actually experience love with the same man, and it is unlike anything I have built before.
If you want early access, register your interest below and you will be the first to know when doors open, with priority pricing and insider information before anyone else sees it.
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What changes for you
Here is what you are really signing up for
Getting more of what you actually came here for
Imagine him calling more, being all vulnerable with his feelings, telling you what you mean to him, talking about the future without you having to pull every word out of him like pulling a back molar with no anaesthetic and wonder if he even means it.
Stopping the pattern that is quietly costing your relationship
Right now it is costing you your relationship but also your sleep, your focus, and most of all it is costing you the version of yourself that existed before you started monitoring his moods like British weather. We are going to end that relationship burnout and make your relationship a safe place to land.
Why you deserve love that does not cost you yourself
You get your energy back. You get your spark back. You feel wanted, cherished, like someone who is genuinely loved rather than tolerated and you start actually living and experiencing your relationship instead of managing it and hoping for the best.
What you'll finally understand
It is THE place for women loving and married to avoidant partners to finally understand:
Why the relationship feels amazing one week and awful the next, and how to end the whiplash.
How to build genuine emotional safety so he opens up for real, and you stop performing closeness on command.
How to hold a boundary and draw him closer at the very same time, instead of choosing between the two.
Why the same argument keeps circling back, and the single mindset shift that steps you both out of it.
What to do when he says he needs space and cannot explain why, and how much space is genuinely too much.
How to feel connected to him when you are upset, rather than feel more alone in it.
Why your mind loops on the relationship all day long, and how to feel connected again without losing yourself and finally get your peace back.
The three ways of communicating with an avoidant partner, and how to know which one each moment is actually calling for.
And even better?
You are invited to join as a Founding Member
This is the first ever opening of Effortless Intimacy Élite, the first membership of its kind created exclusively for women loving avoidant and emotionally distant partners, and that means the doors you are standing at right now will only ever open this way once.
So I am inviting a small group of women in as Founding Members, the very first names on the list, the ones who say yes before there is a single review to read or a testimonial to lean on, simply because something in them recognised this is exactly the somewhere to go they have been missing.
This is your chance to be among the very first inside, to genuinely shape what EIE becomes, because so much of this space is built around you, right down to the monthly Mastermind topic the women inside actually vote for.
As a Founding Member, you will get:
- First access the moment the doors open on 1st July, including instant entry to the EIF Ultimate so you can begin The Reset and feel him soften before your very first live session even lands.
- Your founding terms locked in for as long as you stay, on conditions that quietly disappear the moment these first doors close behind you.
- A real hand in how this membership grows, where your questions, the topics you vote for, and the situations you most want support with steer what gets built next.
- A place among the first circle of women who understand the exact relationship you are in without you having to explain or justify a single thing, with me walking this opening round alongside you directly.
Your Role in Our Journey
In return, all I ask for is your honesty and input as we find our rhythm together, the occasional (or frequent!) word on what is landing and what you would love more of, and your permission to celebrate your wins with you when they start arriving, and they do start arriving. Your experience inside this first round is what turns Effortless Intimacy Élite from something I built into something we built, and every woman who walks through these doors after you will feel the difference you made to your relationship.
These founding spots are only here during this first opening, so if you are reading this and quietly thinking "this is the place I have been looking for," this is your moment to claim it before it is gone.
Founding member exclusive offer. Cancel any time, no questions asked.
The waitlist closes on 15th June, and while you can absolutely still join once the doors open later, the exclusive waitlist bonuses and early access are kept for the women who got into the waitlist. This is the only window where saying yes earns you something extra.
I'm Shabana!
I've experienced it all. From a turbulent marriage, great relationships to epics breakups, being an avoidant extraordinaire to anxious wreck. I'm the lived experience of every attachment style.
And now? I've created a proven tried and tested method helping women build intimacy - even with the most avoidant partners.
I've spent the past 7+ years coaching men and women on how to build intimacy with their partners- and I've seen some AMAZING transformations (marriages re-born, baby plannings, avoidants spilling their hearts out, spontaneous proposals, divorce-no-more, decades of singledom to boom-moving in together).
The pattern of anxious-avoidant is the same whether you're two years in or married for 10 ( it does not include situationships however :-))
You'll be amazed at how small, manageable changes can lead to big breakthroughs in intimacy which is what I teach. Your relationship shouldn't require a PhD Psych.
I can't wait to share with you my latest offer making loving an avoidant not only easier, but way more fulfilling.
Shabana Xx
Before you join
Your questions, answered
So, what does being a Founding Member actually mean?
As a Founding Member you are not simply joining a membership that already exists in its finished form, you are helping to shape it, and in return you receive a welcome and a closeness to me that will never be offered quite like this again.
From your very first month you have a genuine say in where we go, because the Mastermind topic is voted on by the women inside, which means the teaching lands exactly where your relationship actually needs it rather than where some fixed curriculum assumes it should, and the things you tell me you are wrestling with most all feed straight into what this membership becomes.
You will be walked through this first ever round by me directly, with an attentiveness that is only really possible while the group is still small and finding its feet, which is rather the quiet gift of arriving early.
This is a single, never to be repeated opening, and it is also your chance to stop navigating one of the most misunderstood relationship dynamics in existence entirely on your own, and to finally have somewhere to bring the wins, the hard days and the breakthroughs, every single month, with women beside you and me in your corner. Seems like a rather good place to begin.
When do doors open?
Doors open on the 15th of June!
When does it start?
It all kicks off on the 1st of July, and the moment you join you get immediate access to the full roadmap and practices, so you can start working through them straight away rather than waiting on a single thing.
It is the very roadmap that has carried hundreds of women from anxious-avoidant to secure, and it has not only shifted their dynamic in a fundamental way, it has helped them become genuinely more secure within themselves, so these incredible, capable women are now thriving in their relationships too, their Achilles heel finally healed.
And the hot-seat coaching, along with all the other juicy bits, is only a few weeks away.
A little aside: this roadmap was previously available as a standalone course and has now moved inside the membership, so it is all in one place for you.
© Coaching with Shabana | Attachment Styles Coach
Disclaimer: This is for educational purposes only. It is not meant to replace therapy.
