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EFFORTLESS INTIMACY FORMULA™

Start to feel seen, safe and chosen in 30 days

Unlock The 4-Step System That Makes Even Avoidant Men  Open Up, Become  Consistent & Stay Committed Without Begging, Chasing or Issuing Ultimatums -

If you find yourself losing sleep replaying conversations, sending him "how to know you're avoidant?" reels daily- that remain unopened - this is for you.

7+ Years Coaching Distilled Into 4 Practical Steps 

✅ Emotionally Safe ✅ Needs Met ✅ Feeling Calm
 
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REAL TALK...
 
When it comes to breaking the anxious-avoidant dance, you don't need to figure out if he's avoidant or give him brick loads of space. You don't need another hack to get him to text back or make him open up. What you need is emotional safety: the quiet power that makes connection effortless again...

In fact, emotional safety is THE answer to getting your partner to open up, lean in, and stay close. It's the ONE thing that transforms:

💗 The endless "did I say too much?" spiral → into him texting first, planning dates, showing excitement!
💗 It’s what turns surface-level "how was your day" chats into the 2am conversations pillow-talk you've been craving.
💗Bargaining for affection (the strategic touch, the "casual" hint you'd love flowers → into him pulling you close without you having to ask
💗 Performing the "chill girl" who pretends she doesn't need anything → into being the woman he can't imagine his life without

This is the power of emotional safety.
 

It isn’t manipulation. It’s the quiet strength that shifts a relationship from imbalance to intimacy even if you believe he's emotionally unavailable.

💎Creating emotional safety is the foundation of the lasting intimacy you’ve been craving.


 
 
Say goodbye to the push & pulls, over-giving and emotional distance
 
Create consistency and connection without making all the effort
 
Say hello to heartfelt conversations, and healthy communication.
But..it wasn't always like this...

 

You remember when he couldn't wait to see you. When texts came easy. When he'd light up when he saw you walk into the room

But somewhere along the way, something shifted.

Now...

➡️You message him… and it sits there. Unread.
➡️He lies about small things and swears it’s “no big deal.”
➡️You try to plan a simple date… and he says he’s “not sure” what he wants.

The unpredictability is draining. And the anxiety underneath? Brutal.

😥 You ask, “Do you still like me?” His reply? “Not again! You’re NEVER happy!”

😥 You express how the silence affects you… he shuts down completely.

😥 You suggest couples therapy and he looks at you like it’s a death trap.

🤷‍♀️ He suggests breaking up but then reappears like nothing happened 

And underneath it all? You' wonder if you made a mistake, whether you were too rash (should've listened to your dad) or whether he's just too emotionally unavailable.

 Your friends & family agree: "You're better off dating secure. Afterall, all you're asking for is basic level of respect!"

You end up feeling so needy and desperate just for a scrap of connection, but you know something feels off about giving up on him."

I see you (been there many many times too)💔

What if you could stop waiting hours for a reply, PLUS hear him say “I miss you” and start making a genuine effort without you asking?

What if you could get back to how it felt in the beginning, or even better..?

That shift isn’t fantasy. It’s emotional safety in action. The missing piece👇🏽

 
What if increasing intimacy could be SIMPLE and...EASY? 💃🏽

What if in 86 minutes - the length of an extended lunch break - you could have more connection and intimacy (sometimes with just a FEW choice words?) 

 

What if you didn't need to have constant conversations AND still get your needs met? 

 

What if your partner started going over and above in meeting your needs?

 

What if they started opening up 'voluntarily' without you asking?

 

What if you could have waaaaaaay MORE connection with waaaaaaay LESS effort?

 
 

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  Effortless Intimacy Formula™

A 4-step framework built from 7 years of coaching women through real anxious and avoidant dynamics, and distilled from the hardest lessons I ever had to live through in relationships

Inside, you’ll discover how to reset the emotional tone of your relationship and create the kind of emotional safety that makes even an avoidant partner lean in, open up, and stay close.

It’s not theory, it’s a proven system I’ve used with hundreds of women who once thought intimacy with their partner was impossible.

P.S. I’m so confident in this process that if you don’t love it for any reason, there’s a 7 day full money-back guarantee. 

 
IMAGINE...
Waking up and not mentally replaying last night’s conversation.
No decoding. No scanning for tone shifts.
Just a man who shows up the same way he did yesterday.
✨ He follows through, every time.

✨ He makes plans, books holidays, is actually available...

✨ He listens when you speak… and remembers what you said.

✨ He keeps you in the loop instead of leaving you hanging.
💡This isn’t you becoming “less demanding.” That’s what happens when you shift the dynamic that makes intimacy natural👇👇
 
INTRODUCING...

EFFORTLESS INTIMACY FORMULA™

Your All-Access Pass to Emotional Intimacy Even With an Avoidant Partner

 Where you say goodbye to sleepless nights and hello to rambling loving texts, morning coffees, and affection that's consistent. Inside Effortless Intimacy Formula you’ll learn the exact shifts that make love feel easy again.

 

What's Inside⬇️

 
 Your Permission Slip To The Consistency and Connection You Deserve Without Making ALL the Effort,  Constant Conversations or drowning in attachment theory (...unless it’s helps!)

…just the simple, real-life shifts that actually make a difference in your relationship!


    

Step 1

Reset Emotional Intimacy 

If you’ve ever thought, ‘Why is he always pulling away?’ This is the moment that ends that disconnection.

You’ll follow the three emotional reset checklist to cut the hidden habits that not only secretly sabotage your effort but alsotrain him to keep his distance.

This includes:

1️⃣ Turn panic into power: the #1 mindset shift to stop overthinking mid-spiral and make you irresistible instead of needy.

2️⃣ Wield the two emotions that disarm avoidance - watch resistance melt as you eliminate the two emotions that cause the most disconnection.

3️⃣ Seal your “safety leaks: A powerful meditation so deep your nervous system stops chasing him and start naturally drawing him closer

👉One client said she’d always panicked when her partner went quiet. Once she caught her biggest safety leak within days, he was initiating conversations and sharing more than ever.
 
Step 2

Setting The NEW Standard™

You’ll use the Emotional Standard Builder to set a new bar. This is how you stop pushing down your needs AND start creating balance so love feels equal, not one-sided

Inside, you'll lock in: 

1️⃣  Create steady energy: Install 7 simple commitments to love: habits that keep you calm, composed, and confident so he relaxes around you

2️⃣ Set the new standard: create non-negotiables that invite and increase his effort: you’ll decide what truly matters to you (without feeling guilty or anxious about it) and make it easy for him to meet you there with effort and care.

3️⃣Elevate how you’re treated. The EXACT mindset that silently shifts you from “hard to please” to “impossible to overlook.”

👉Sophie stopped thinking “if only he would start thinking about our wedding…” and instead started leading gently. Within weeks, he was the one planning for it (and bought the wedding forward by 18 months)
Step 3

Create Emotional Safety 

This step makes you irresistible even to the most avoidant partner. You’ll install emotional cues that make an avoidant crave connection with you.  Even if he’s super defensive, checked out or distant, these tools work.

You'll  learn: 
1️⃣My Trust Escalator™ to fast-track emotional safety  - even the most avoidant men soften, open up, and start investing with real commitment.

2️⃣The precise approach so he becomes more emotionally available, open-hearted, and consistent in his energy. 

3️⃣The #1 tone to lower his walls even in hard moments and changes the energy of every conversation.

👉 Mariah waited two years for her partner to commit. Within six months of applying these shifts, he proposed. (*Update: now married with two babies to boot.)
 
Step 4

The Chosen Era

In this final step, you’ll never chase closeness again and become the woman he instinctively prioritises. This is the energy that makes your partner want to communicate, commit and stay consistent.

Inside, you'll

 1️⃣ Make closeness his comfort-zone: He’ll start clearing time, reaching out first, because being near you  feel better than distance.

2️⃣ Reignite his leadership and direction: A fill-in-the-blank accountability + repair process so he starts taking the lead more, forward planning and prioritising your safety and security.

3️⃣ Keep love playful, affectionate, and stable: 3–5 Minute Connection Rituals: Thoughtful daily gestures that keep affection alive and playful so love stays light but intentional. Easy to do, hard to forget.

You’ll notice intimacy becoming your new normal. More playfulness, communication and affection. This time it last.
 
 

Snapshot Of What's Possible

Real Women, Real Results (names and photos changed for client privacy. Stories are 100% real).

 
Mel, Austria: 3-Year Relationship

From “maybe you should find someone else”… to him pouring his heart out within 30 days.

Amna, UK -Second Marriage

 From an avoidant husband, functioning like roommates… to deeper conversations, surprise holidays, and genuine connection. 

Sarah, NYC, USA: 4 year relationship

From avoidance, gaming, lack of connection to proposal, moving across the country and in together and a gorgeous baby

Marja, Belgium: 10-Year Marriage

From constant fights, stuck in the anxious-avoidant loop… to laughing, insider jokes and...finally feeling safe

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You'll also get access to these bonuses...

 
BONUS #1
The EXACT Things To Say And Do If Your Partner Is Mean So You Keep Your Cool.

 

 Val $147
BONUS #2
The 5-Minute Vulnerability Map™ To Get Your Needs Met-FAST

 (This can be used as a separate course, but I've dropped it here for free)

 Val $147
BONUS #3
The 11 Hidden Pitfalls That Blow Up Intimacy Without You Realising
 Val $99
Total Value = $1,082
ONE EASY PAYMENT OF

$197 $77

I WANT ALL OF THESE PLEASE 💖

Effortless Intimacy Formula™

You won’t leave this work with the same relationship you started with...

Get the insider secrets to break through your partner's walls and create real closeness - no more mind-games,  being left on unread while they spend HOURS on their phone, gaming or hanging out with their F&F, but zero time with you!

Real reciprocity. Real consistency. Real intimacy.

 
ALL OF THIS FOR $1484


ONLY $199 $47

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Give Me the Skills to Create Lasting Intimacy 💫
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE!

7 Day Refund Guarantee.

Enrol in the Effortless Intimacy Formula with zero pressure.

While real change takes time (I recommend 15-30 days of intentional practice), you’re fully protected with my 7-day refund guarantee.

If in the first week you feel this isn’t aligned...I’ll refund every cent. Your investment is fully protected, so you have nothing to lose and a truly an intimate relationship to gain.

 

-You might be thinking?-

You might be thinking: “This sounds amazing, but I don’t have the emotional energy right now.”

That's fair but here’s the truth: this isn’t hours of theory. It’s a simple, step-by-step framework you can apply in real time especially in the middle of (another?) tough moment with your partner.

*And the best part? It actually gives you your energy back. No more over-functioning, over-extending, or pouring out while your needs go unmet.

 
WHY WORK WITH ME?
I'm Shabana!
Maybe you haven’t heard of me. That is totally fine. I do not live on reels or chase virality.
You’ll find me on Instagram (sometimes), but most of my hours are spent coaching, holding communities, and supporting clients to have real breakthroughs.
I may not be Matthew Hussey (no shade), I’m the coach women come to after the therapy talks and podcast advice stop working. I've been doing this for 7 years now and very good at it. 
I created this framework from my own lived experience when my marriage crashed and burned. Everything I teach has been tried and tested in real relationships, not theory. If you want someone who chooses substance over clout and real change over loudness, you are in the right place.

I’ve witnessed so many transformations that would make even the biggest love cynic believe in love again (marriages, babies, divorce-no-more, decades of singledom to boom-moving in together and magical proposals).

You'll be amazed at how small, manageable changes can lead to BIG  breakthroughs in intimacy.

 

It's your turn.

Let's make it happen!

Shabana Xx

P.S I get a lot of question why I've priced it's so low.  I deliberately kept the price low so more women could access it. The value is easily worth hundreds, but the goal is impact: helping as many women as possible shift out of painful cycles and into secure love.

 
HERE'S THE DEAL...
I don't want this feeling of disconnection and frustration to hold you back anymore, so I'm going to make this a no-brainer for you so that you...
  • You'll discover how to inspire their desire to spend quality time together the EASY way, creating those magical moments of connection you crave.

  • You'll discover how to reignite that playful, affectionate spark, transforming your relationship from predictable to passionate!

  • And discover how to inspire your partner to be your biggest cheerleader and lavish you with affectionate words and phrases that'll make your heart skip a beat! 🙌

 

All for ONLY $197 $77!

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Is This Course For You?

THIS COURSE IS PERFECT FOR YOU IF...
  • You're fully committed to the course and are ready to learn a new approach that actually works. 

  • You're in a heterosexual relationship/ marriage with someone who tends to pull away and you're eager to learn how to create a safe space for them to open up.

  • You're tired of trying to get through to your partner and have given up hope of having an intimate relationship, but deep down, you still yearn for more.

  • You struggle with anxious or fearful attachment style - this course has helped 1000+ of women to build intimacy and heal their attachment style along the way

 
THIS COURSE IS NOT FOR YOU IF...

 ❌ You’re looking for a quick fix or a magic solution to instantly change your relationship. Real intimacy is built through meaningful shifts, not overnight tricks.

❌ You’re hoping to use these strategies to change your partner or mould them into someone they’re not. This course is about empowering you with proven skills to create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship—not forcing someone else to change.

❌ You’re in a relationship that is abusive, toxic, or a situationship. Please seek support.  These skills are designed for women in committed relationships or marriages where mutual respect and care exist, even if emotional closeness is currently lacking.

 
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Ready to leave the emotional distance behind and start learning the proven skills fulfilled women have successfully used for millennia—allowing you to finally have intimacy that you too deserve?

 
GET INSTANT ACCESS TO:
  • 4 Proven Skills Get Your Partner To Open Up, Initiate More, And Stay Close  (Valued at $697)

  • Lifetime Access – Revisit the material anytime you need a reset or deeper understanding ($197)

  • Vids, Worksheets & Guided Exercises – Break old patterns and reinforce new, intimacy skills ($197)

 
  • Bonus #1: The EXACT Things to Say If Your Partner Is Hurtful (Valued at $147)

  • Bonus #2: 5 Minute Method To Be Truly Vulnerable & Get Your Needs Met (Valued at $147)

  • Bonus #3: The 11 Pitfalls to Avoid if your Partner Is Very Avoidant  (Valued at $99)

 
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I’m Ready to Feel Safe & Loved💍