🛡️ For Women With Avoidant Partners Who Want Emotional Intimacy

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Effortless Intimacy Formula™

"he’s already the one calling me, pouring his heart out.”

The #No1 bestselling course built to help him...lean in, open up, and want to connect...without chasing, begging, or losing yourself.

7 year coaching, distilled into 4 clear steps

✅ Emotionally Safe ✅ Needs Met ✅ Lasting Connection 

 
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Better connection & more effort in as little as 6 weeks
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Trusted by 1,097 women creating marriages, families & lasting love

 Breakthroughs From Women Just Like You...

Intimacy isn’t complicated

Closeness doesn’t come from harder work or endless devotion. It never has.

Effort left me empty. 

 💔Lying next to my 'avoidant' husband who felt like a million miles away.

💔 Crying on the bedroom floor, mourning the love I’d never have.

💔 Googling “how to fix my marriage” at 3 AM, desperate for answers

👉🏽 What I didn’t know then was that the problem wasn’t me. It was the way I was trying.

And once I learned how to shift the approach, everything began to change.


✨ The Turning Point

My biggest struggle became my greatest lesson.

True intimacy isn’t about changing your partner - it’s about creating an emotional landscape where intimacy thrives.

Intimacy isn't complicated. It's intentional.


⚙️From Trial and Error to a Proven Formula

I turned the heartbreak and missteps into a step-by-step framework.. 

And when I started sharing with my clients?

*The results blew me away. I watched hundreds of women go from the brink of breakups, silence, and walking on eggshells…

👉🏽 to feeling safe, cherished, and deeply connected—travelling together, getting married, moving in, having babies


🛡️AND HERE’S THE BEST PART...

Emotional intimacy isn't complicated.

It's practical. A simple sequence of steps any woman can use to change the way closeness works in her relationship.

It follows a clear framework: one that recodes the anxious–avoidant dance.

And these aren’t “nice to have” skills. They’re essential.

👉🏽 Because when you understand how intimacy truly works, connection stops feeling like a battle.

Just the closeness you deserve without the struggle.

This belongs to every woman. Including you 💘
Show Me the 4 Simple Steps That Will Bring Us Closer →

Right now, it feels like guesswork....

➡️ You send a heartfelt message, hoping for connection, but all you get back is a ‘seen’ notification and a pit in your stomach 💔

➡️ You ask a simple "what do you like about me?" and he rolls his eyes, and says, “Why do we always have to talk about this? You're NEVER happy!" 😖

➡️ You're doing all the things: being empathetic, listening hard, showing up as your best self. And yet… it’s like none of it registers.


 👉🏽And you've tried..
🤔Talking about your feelings nonstop? 
🤔Endlessly suggesting couples therapy?
🤔Reading every relationship book you can find?

It's not you.

*The real issue: Classic “talk it out” strategies, endless self-help books, and expensive couples therapy don't work.

They don’t address your unique needs with an avoidant or emotionally unavailable partner. And, they miss the real problem: a nervous system that shuts down under pressure.

*Until you address that, no amount of effort will get you the intimacy you crave.


🔎What Actually Works...

You don’t need another draining conversation.

👉🏽 You need a safer space 

Cos, the real breakthrough happens when you press pause instead of pushing for answers

When you shift your energy  into understanding subtle cues, you open emotional doors you never thought possible.

Here’s what no one tells you: women in healthy relationships aren’t “just lucky” or “special.” (And they’re not having perfect conversations either).

They’ve learned simple steps that create lasting intimacy-skills most of us were never taught.

They’re real. They’re learnable. And they’re yours…👇🏽
What if increasing intimacy could be SIMPLE and...EASY? 💃🏽

What if in 86 minutes - the length of an extended lunch break - you could have more connection and intimacy (sometimes with just a FEW choice words?) 

 

What if you didn't need to have constant conversations AND still get your needs met? 

 

What if your partner started going over and above in meeting your needs?

 

What if they started opening up 'voluntarily' without you asking?

 

What if you could have waaaaaaay MORE connection with waaaaaaay LESS effort?

 
 

IMAGINE...

You wake up and, instead of scrolling on his phone, he actually pulls you close. Kisses your forehead. Asks how you slept. No tension. No second-guessing. Just warmth.

During the day, you don’t have to remind him. He checks in. He remembers the little things, calls in his lunch break, actually wants to be near you.

And when you talk? It isn’t you dragging him into a deep conversation. He opens up on his own. He even initiates it - you’ve stopped clinging to the old beliefs that it's never going to work.

The whole atmosphere shifts. Softer. More smiles you don’t have to force. Laughter slipping out at random moments. His hand brushing your arm just because.

And the fights? They don’t spiral like before. You both stay present. Curious about each other. Even the romance  flickers again like those memories you thought were gone for good.

And the surprising part? It wasn’t harder effort. It was a smarter way that finally made love feel natural

💡 This is what happens when there is emotional safety with each other.

Safety first ➡️ Conversation second➡️Commitment follows.

It's the only attachment informed intimacy framework designed women (many anxious or fearful attachment) women in relationship with avoidant men through tiny, practical shifts built on emotional safety: not scripts, ultimatums, or 'I feel' statements.

 
And it's that simple: you stop chasing it and start experiencing it⬇️

Get The 4 Essential Steps That Calm His Nervous System And Create Emotional Safety —Without Draining Talks So You Can Finally Experience The Deep Connection You Deserve- 

*They make instant sense that you’ll wonder how you ever did it without them. **It just clicks.

 

Snapshot Of What's Possible

Real Women, Real Results (names and photos changed for client privacy. Stories are 100% real).

 

Mel, Austria: 3-year relationship

From “maybe you should find someone else”… to him pouring his heart out within 30 days.

 

Amna, UK -Second marriage

 From an avoidant husband, functioning like roommates… to deeper conversations, holidays, and genuine connection. 

 

 

Sarah, NYC, USA: 4 year relationship

From avoidance, gaming, lack of connection to proposal, moving across the country and in together and 2 gorgeous babies

 

Marja, Belgium: 10-year marriage

From crying on the bathroom floor… to laughing over morning coffee, finally feeling safe

 
INTRODUCING
The Effortless Intimacy Formula™
For Women Who Want More: Connection, Ease, and Self-Respect.

WHAT'S INSIDE⬇️

A  Revolutionary  Attachment Informed Formula That Rekindles Intimacy - Even If He's Resistant 

Traditional advice always tells you to keep pushing for dialogue - but if that hasn’t worked, there’s finally a smarter shortcut.

By the end of Step 4, you’ll have your intimacy skills safely locked in. You’ll be doing less,  and receiving more

 
STEP 1 [WEEK 1]

RESET EMOTIONAL INTIMACY

Discover the 3 Safety Leaks That is Blocking Intimacy & Stop Them In Their Tracks--They're Not What You Think 

 If you’ve ever thought, ‘Why is he pulling away?’—this is the step that ends the disconnection and helps your partner stay close -even when it's hard
 
By the end of Step 1 you'll see the emotional distance start to soften.
 
STEP 2 [WEEK 2-3]

SET THE NEW STANDARD

Shift the Energy So He Starts Leaning In Without Begging, Chasing Or Ultimatums 

Avoidants respond to subtle energetic shifts. This is the step where you RECLAIM your energy, flip the script, and truly understand feminine emotional leadership.

By the end of Step 2, you’ll notice him leaning in more, not because you asked, but because he’s naturally tuning in, not out.
STEP 3 [WEEK 4-5]

LOCK IN EMOTIONAL SAFETY

Build Emotional Safety  That Makes Him Want to Open Up AND Deepen His Commitment Fast 

Using my Trust Escalator Method™, you’ll fast-track emotional safety so even the most avoidant men soften, making space for warmth, openness, and relational ease.

By end of Step 3, around week 5, you’ll see your partner open up with deeper thoughts and greater commitment. (Many women also choose to add -optional- live support at this point- it’s available if you need it) 
 
STEP 4 [WEEK 6]

DEEPEN EMOTIONAL INTIMACY 

Sustain the Spark So Intimacy Grows & He Keeps Choosing You - Over and Over 

Timeless, easy-to-implement strategies that sustain closeness. It keeps your partner leading, meeting your needs, staying close willingly and unprompted. Happy partners, happy hearts :-)

By Week 6/Step 4  You’ll notice emotional intimacy becoming your new normal. You’ve moved through all four steps in just 6 weeks (that’s 42 days!) with meaningful relationship changes that will typically develop and deepen over months of consistent practice.

Safety precedes intimacy.

Once safety is felt, intimacy is effortless.

TOTAL VALUE [$497]

 

Comprehensive tools and lifetime access for less than a single coaching session

 

 

Goodbye to over-giving and emotional distance

 

 

Connection without over-explaining & draining conversations

 

Hello to real intimacy, consistent effort, and a committed partner.

"...to think I was going to break up with him...I would have regretted that forever..."

 

 
AND THERE'S MORE...

You'll also get access to even more  bonuses...

 
BONUS #1

The EXACT Phrases To Say And Do If Your Partner is Hurtful

(vid & PDF- value $147]

 
BONUS #2

The 5-Minute Vulnerability Map. Share truth in a way his nervous system can receive

 [vid & worksheets value $107]

 
BONUS #3

The 11 Pitfalls To Avoid If Your Partner Is Very Avoidant

 [vid + pdf value $70]

 

The Effortless Intimacy Formula™

For Women Who Want More: Connection, Ease, and Self-Respect.

 
Total Value = $1,082
ONE EASY PAYMENT OF

$197 $77

I WANT ALL OF THESE PLEASE 💖

Including The Emotional Reset™, The Emotional Standard™, The Trust Escalator Method™,

TOTAL VALUE: $999
 

ALL OF THIS ONLY FOR $199 $69

*SAVING 70%: This course is  worth hundreds, but I want affordability to win over exclusivity.

 
Give Me the 4 Steps to Create Lasting Intimacy💅🏽

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WHY WORK WITH ME?
I'm Shabana, I'm an Attachment Style Coach Obsessed With Helping Women Facing Real Emotional Shut Out - Tested in the Trenches

I believe every woman deserves a relationship where she feels emotionally safe, seen, and cherished. My vision is a world where intimacy isn’t chased, but effortlessly created by women (and men) who know their worth AND have a lasting connection.

 

I've experienced it all. From turbulent marriages, great relationships to epic breakups, being an avoidant extraordinaire to anxious wreck. I got one too many t-shirts.

And now? I've cracked the code on building intimacy - even with the most avoidant partners.

And, let me tell you, it's a radical shift!

I've spent the past 5 years coaching and helping 1000+ anxious/fearful and avoidant women on how to build intimacy with their partners-even emotionally unavailable ones- and I've seen some AMAZING transformations (marriages, babies, divorce-no-more, decades of singledom to boom-moving in together).

Building a deep connection is simpler than you might think.

That's why I've created this course. I distilled the key insights from my journey and my coaching into 4 straightforward, easy-to-implement skills that create safety first.

Unlike countless “talk it out” courses (that don't work!) it’s centred on micro-shifts that don’t require your partner to participate at all.
Small, doable, practical shifts. Big returns in connection.. 

If you are ready to stop walking on eggshells and start enjoying genuine closeness, this course is your roadmap.
You will wonder why you ever thought it was difficult.

Ready to unlock the secret to effortless intimacy? See you on the other side

Shabana Xx

 
PLUS YOU HAVE...

100% No-Risk Money-Back

7-Day Guarantee

Enrol in the Effortless Intimacy Formula with zero pressure.

While real change takes time (I recommend at least 60 days of intentional practice), you’re fully protected with my 7-day refund guarantee.

If in the first week you feel this isn’t aligned...I’ll refund every cent. Your investment is fully protected, so you have nothing to lose and a truly an intimate relationship to gain.

 

Choose Your Future⬇️

 

The Only Step-by-Step Framework Proven to Work in Anxious–Avoidant Dynamics

Backed by research and grounded in real-life skills. You don’t need to “earn” intimacy or another " I feel" statement - you need the practical steps that actually create genuine closeness.

 
GET INSTANT ACCESS TO:
  • 4 PROVEN Steps  To Build Intimacy Even With An Avoidant Partner (Valued at $497)
  • Lifetime Access – Revisit the material anytime you need a reset or deeper understanding ($97)
  • Vids, Worksheets & Guided Exercises – End disconnection and reinforce new, intimacy skills ($97)
 
  • Bonus #1: The EXACT Things to Say If Your Partner Is Hurtful (Valued at $127)
  • Bonus #2: Step by Step Method To Be Truly Vulnerable In A Few Minutes ($107)
  • Bonus #3: The 11pitfalls to avoid if your partner is Very Avoidant (Valued at $70)
 
Total Value = $1,482
ONE EASY PAYMENT OF

$197 - $77

GIVE ME INSTANT ACCESS 🔑
 COURSE VALUE: $999

ALL OF THIS FOR ONLY $199 $69*

(*Get $999 worth of proven intimacy tools today for just $69)

I’m Ready to Feel Safe & Loved💍

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Is This Course For You?

This bite-size course is designed for women who want deep transformation without hours of content—just focused, doable shifts that actually work

 
THIS COURSE IS PERFECT FOR YOU IF...
  • You have the patience and commitment to learn an approach that actually works and witness observable differences.
  • You're a woman in a long-term heterosexual relationship/marriage and eager to bridge the distance and disconnection.
  • You're in a relationship with an avoidant partner and have hope of having an intimate relationship, and you yearn for what's possible
  • You struggle with anxious or fearful attachment style - this course has helped 1000+  women to build intimacy and heal their attachment style along the way
 
THIS COURSE IS NOT FOR YOU IF...
❌ You're looking for a magic bullet or quick-fixes. It's long term change with micro-shifts stacked over time. You must be willing to try the strategies for at least 60 days.
❌ This course isn’t for situationships where things stay vague, or undefined.
❌ You’re hoping to use these strategies to change your partner or mould them into someone they’re not. This course is about empowering you with proven skills to building emotional safety - not forcing someone else to change.
❌ You’re in a relationship that is abusive or extremely toxic.
 
Make Safety Your Advantage -Risk-Free ❤️

Frequently Asked Questions

 

The First Step-by-Step System for Emotional Safety and Lasting Connection Even if He’s Avoidant.

No Chasing, Ultimatums, or Self-Abandonment

If you’ve been holding the relationship together with emotional duct tape—
If you’re tired of decoding mixed signals, overthinking your every word, and doing all the work just to feel close...

You don’t need another exhausting conversation.
You don’t need to be “more chill,” “more healed,” or “less needy.”

You need the 4 steps that actually create safety, connection, and effort on both sides.

The Effortless Intimacy Formula gives you that so that you shift the dynamic—
without chasing, overgiving, or abandoning your truth.

This is where the pattern breaks 👇🏽

 
💌Yes, I’m Ready for Lasting Intimacy For Only $197 $97

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