Introducing
EFFORTLESS INTIMACY FORMULAā¢
Transforming 5 Anxious-Avoidant Dances a Day. Gracefully
āĀ zero begging ā zero ultimatums
UnlockĀ The Proven Framework To Get Your Partner To Open Up, Initiate More, And Stay Close āĀ Even if Heās Distant, Always Asking for Space, or Emotionally Unavailable.
If you find yourself saying āWhy canāt he just meet me halfway?āĀ -Ā this is for you.
7+ Years Coaching Distilled Into 4 Practical StepsĀ
ā Emotionally SafeĀ ā Needs MetĀ ā Real ConsistencyĀ
When it comes to building a relationship where you feel chosen, secure you donāt need ultimatums, better communication hacks, or another round of āwe need to talk.āĀ What you need is emotional safety :Ā the quiet power that makes connection effortless again...
In fact, emotional safety is THE answer to getting him to open up, lean in, and stay close.
š Itās what makes him initiate instead of him waiting for your lead (again!)
š Itās what turns surface-level polite chats intoĀ genuine heartfeltĀ conversations.
š Itās whatĀ makesĀ affection natural, not negotiated or nagged for.
š And itās what finally lets you stop performing āthe chill girlā and start beingĀ chosen.
This is the power of emotionalĀ safety.
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ItĀ isnāt manipulation. Itās mastery.
Of the quiet strength that shifts a relationship from imbalance to intimacy.
šCreating emotionalĀ safety is the foundation of the lastingĀ intimacy youāve been craving.
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Say goodbye to over-giving and emotional distance
Inspire consistency and connectionĀ without ultimatums
Say hello to heartfelt conversations, and healthy communication.
ā”ļøHe always too busy, ā”ļøAlways needing spaceā”ļøSuggestingĀ you should just break upā¦
...until he reappears like nothing happened š¤·āāļø
The mixed messages are exhaaaausting...Ā and the silence between them? Even louder.
š„You feel like a broken record.Ā āDo you still like me?āĀ His reply? Indifference. Or worse - annoyance: āYouāre NEVER happy!āĀ
š„You bring up how you feel & he rolls his eyes. āNot again! Why do we always have to talk about this?āĀ
š„Ā You suggest couples therapy, talking about your feelings endlessly or reading every relationship book you can find...still no luck.Ā
And underneath it all? ThatĀ hurt of loving harder than youāre loved back.Ā
You end up feeling so needy and desperate just for a scrap of connection.
IĀ see you (been there many many times too!)
What if you could stop waiting hours for a reply, PLUS hear him say āI miss youā and start making the effort without you asking?
That shift isnāt fantasy. Itās emotional safety in action.šš½šš½
Ā Effortless Intimacy Formulaā¢
A 4-step framework built from 7 years of coaching women through anxious and avoidant dynamics, and distilled from the hardest lessons I ever had to live through in relationships
Inside, youāll discover how to reset the emotional tone of your relationshipĀ and create the kind of emotional safety that makes evenĀ an avoidant partner lean in, open up, and stay close.
Itās not theory, itās a proven system Iāve used withĀ hundreds of women who once thought intimacy with their partner was impossible.
P.S. Iām so confident in this process that if you donāt love it for any reason, thereās a 7 day full money-back guarantee.Ā
⨠You wake up and, for the first time in forever, you feel chosen.
Heās not scrolling on his phone. Heās reaching for you - asking how you slept, how you are.
⨠You donāt have to chase reminders he takes the lead. He books the dinner, calls when heāll be home, and remembers the anniversary before you even do!
⨠He initiates. He listens. He responds. He texts because he wants to, not because he feels obliged.
⨠That nervous pit in your stomach? It's gone.Ā
⨠Your home? It feels lighter.Ā
āØYour relationship? It's your faveĀ place
š”This isnāt luck.Ā Thatās what happens when you learn the emotional skills that make intimacy naturalšš
EFFORTLESS INTIMACY FORMULAā¢
Your All-Access Pass to Emotional Intimacy Even With an Avoidant Partner
Ā Where you say goodbye to sleepless nights and hello to rambling loving texts, morning coffees, and affection that's consistent. Inside Effortless Intimacy FormulaĀ youāll learn the exact shifts that make love feel easy again.
What's Insideā¬ļø
Ā Your Permission Slip To The Consistency and Connection You DeserveĀ Without Making ALL the Effort,Ā Constant Conversations or drowning in attachment theory (...unless itās helps!)
ā¦just the simple, real-life shifts that actually make a difference in your relationship!
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Reset EmotionalĀ IntimacyĀ
If youāve ever thought,Ā āWhy is he always pulling away?āĀ This is the moment thatĀ ends that disconnection.
Youāll follow the threeĀ emotional reset checklist to cut the hidden habits that not only secretly sabotage yourĀ effort but alsotrain him to keep his distance.
This includes:
1ļøā£ Turn panic into power: the #1 mindset shift to stop overthinking mid-spiral and make you irresistible instead of needy.
2ļøā£ Wield the two emotions that disarm avoidanceĀ - watch resistance melt as you eliminate the two emotions that cause the most disconnection.
3ļøā£ Seal your āsafety leaks: AĀ powerful meditationĀ so deep your nervous systemĀ stops chasingĀ him and start naturally drawing him closer
šOne client said sheād always panicked when her partner went quiet. Once she caught her biggest safety leak within days, he was initiating conversations and sharing more than ever.
Setting TheĀ Undeniable Standardā¢
Youāll use the Emotional Standard Builder to raise the bar. This is how you stop pushing down your needs ANDĀ start creating balance so love feels equal, not one-sided
Inside, you'll lock in:Ā
1ļøā£ Ā CreateĀ steady energy:Ā InstallĀ 7 simple commitments to love: habits that keep you calm, composed, and confident so he relaxes around you
2ļøā£ Set the new standard: create non-negotiables that inviteĀ and increase his effort: youāllĀ decide what truly matters to you (without feeling guilty or anxious about it) and make it easy for him to meet you thereĀ with effort and care.
3ļøā£ElevateĀ how youāre treated. TheĀ EXACT mindset that silently shifts you from āhard to pleaseā to āimpossible to overlook.ā
šSophie stopped thinking āif only he would start thinking about our weddingā¦ā and instead started leading gently. Within weeks, he was the one planning for it (and bought the wedding forward by 18 months)
CreateĀ Emotional SafetyĀ
This step makes you irresistible even to the most avoidant partner. Youāll install emotional cues that make an avoidant crave connection with you.Ā Ā Even if heāsĀ super defensive, checked out or distant, these tools work.
You'llĀ learn:Ā
1ļøā£My Trust Escalator⢠to fast-track emotional safetyĀ - even the most avoidant men soften, open up, and start investing with real commitment.
2ļøā£The preciseĀ approachĀ so he becomes more emotionally available, open-hearted, and consistent in his energy.Ā
3ļøā£The #1 tone to lower his walls even in hard moments and changes the energy of every conversation.
š Mariah waited two years for her partner to commit. Within six months of applying these shifts, he proposed. (*Update: now married with two babies to boot.)
The Chosen Era
In this final step, youāll never chase closeness again andĀ become the woman he instinctively prioritises. This is theĀ energy that makes your partner want toĀ communicate, commit and stay consistent.
Inside, you'll
Ā 1ļøā£ Make closeness his comfort-zone:Ā Heāll start clearing time, reaching out first, because being near youĀ feel better than distance.
2ļøā£ Reignite his leadershipĀ and direction: A fill-in-the-blank accountability + repair process so he startsĀ taking the lead more, forward planning andĀ prioritising your safety and security.
3ļøā£ Keep love playful, affectionate, and stable:Ā 3ā5 Minute Connection Rituals: Thoughtful daily gestures that keep affection alive and playful so love stays light but intentional. Easy to do, hard to forget.
Youāll notice intimacy becoming your new normal.Ā More playfulness, communication and affection. This time it last.
Snapshot Of What's Possible
Real Women, Real Results (names and photos changed for client privacy. Stories are 100% real).
Mel, Austria: 3-Year Relationship
From āmaybe you should find someone elseā⦠to him pouring his heart out within 30 days.
Amna, UK -Second Marriage
Ā From an avoidant husband, functioning like roommates⦠to deeper conversations, surprise holidays, and genuine connection.Ā
Sarah, NYC, USA:Ā 4 year relationship
From avoidance, gaming, lack of connection to proposal, moving across the country and in together and a gorgeous baby
Marja,Ā Belgium: 10-Year Marriage
From constant fights, stuck in the anxious-avoidant loop⦠to laughing, insider jokes and...finally feeling safe
You'll also get access to these bonuses...
The EXACT Things To Say And Do If Your Partner IsĀ Mean
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The 5-Minute Vulnerability Map⢠To Get Your Needs Met-FAST
Ā (This can be used as a separate course, but I've dropped it here for free)
TheĀ 11 Hidden PitfallsĀ That Blow Up IntimacyĀ Without You Realising
EffortlessĀ Intimacy Formulaā¢
You wonāt leave this work with the same relationship you started with...
Get the insider secrets to break through your partner's walls and create real closeness - no more mind-games,Ā being left on unread while they spendĀ HOURSĀ on their phone, gaming or hanging out with their F&F, but zero time with you!
Real reciprocity. Real consistency. Real intimacy.
ALL OF THIS FORĀ $1484
ONLYĀ $199Ā $47
*price to jump up soon!*
7 Day Refund Guarantee.
Enrol in the Effortless Intimacy Formula withĀ zeroĀ pressure.
While real change takes time (I recommend 15-30 days of intentional practice), youāre fully protected withĀ my 7-day refund guarantee.
If in the first week you feel this isnāt aligned...Iāll refund every cent. Your investment is fully protected, so you have nothing to lose and a truly an intimate relationship to gain.
-You might be thinking?-
You might be thinking: āThis sounds amazing, but I donāt have the emotional energy right now.ā
That's fair but hereās the truth: this isnāt hours of theory. Itās a simple, step-by-step framework you can apply in real timeĀ especially in the middle of (another?) tough moment with your partner.
*And the best part? It actually gives you your energy back. No more over-functioning, over-extending, or pouring out while your needs go unmet.
I'm Shabana!
Maybe you havenāt heard of me. That is totally fine. I do not live on reels or chase virality.
Youāll find me on Instagram (sometimes), but most of my hours are spent coaching, holding communities, and supporting clients to have real breakthroughs.
I may not be Matthew Hussey (no shade), Iām the coach women come to after the therapy talks and podcast advice stop working. I've been doing this for 7 years now and very good at it.Ā
I created this framework from my own lived experience when my marriage crashed and burned. Everything I teach has been tried and tested in real relationships, not theory. If you want someone who chooses substance over clout and real change over loudness, you are in the right place.
Iāve witnessed so many transformations that would makeĀ even the biggest love cynicĀ believe in love again (marriages, babies, divorce-no-more, decades of singledom to boom-moving in together and magical proposals).
You'll be amazed at how small, manageable changes can lead toĀ BIGĀ breakthroughs in intimacy.
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It's your turn.
Let's make it happen!
Shabana Xx
P.S I get a lot of question why I've priced it's so low.Ā Ā I deliberately kept the price low so more women could access it. The value is easily worth hundreds, but the goal is impact: helping as many women as possible shift out of painful cycles and into secure love.
I don't want this feeling of disconnection and frustration to hold you back anymore, so I'm going to make this a no-brainer for you so that you...
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You'll discover how to inspire their desire to spend quality time together the EASY way, creating those magical moments of connection you crave.
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You'll discover how to reignite that playful, affectionate spark, transforming your relationship from predictable to passionate!
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And discover how to inspire your partner to be your biggest cheerleader and lavish you with affectionate words and phrases that'll make your heart skip a beat! š
Is This Course For You?
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You're fully committed to the course and are ready to learn a new approach that actually works.Ā
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You're in a heterosexual relationship/ marriage with someone who tends to pull away and you're eager to learn how to create a safe space for them to open up.
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You're tired of trying to get through to your partner and haveĀ given up hope of having an intimate relationship, but deep down, you still yearn for more.
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You struggle with anxious or fearful attachment style - this course has helped 1000+ of women to build intimacy and heal their attachment style along the way
Ā ā Youāre looking for a quick fix or a magic solution to instantly change your relationship. Real intimacy is built through meaningful shifts, not overnight tricks.
ā Youāre hoping to use these strategies to change your partner or mould them into someone theyāre not. This course is about empowering you with proven skills to create a healthier, more fulfilling relationshipānot forcing someone else to change.
ā Youāre in a relationship that is abusive, toxic, or a situationship. Please seek support.Ā These skills are designed for women in committed relationships or marriages where mutual respect and care exist, even if emotional closeness is currently lacking.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if my partner doesn't want to do the course?
Will this help if I'm anxious or fearful attachment?
How soon will I see things getting better?
Do I need to know anything about attachment styles?
DoI get immediate access to the course, and is it mine to keep, or is there a time limit?
What If It Doesnāt Work?
Does this come with Master Reseller Rights? Can I give this to my clients, and is it downloadable?
Is this therapy or a replacement of it?
Ready to leave the emotional distanceĀ behind and start learning the proven skills fulfilled women have successfully used for millenniaāallowing you to finally have intimacy that you too deserve?
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4Ā ProvenĀ SkillsĀ Get Your Partner ToĀ Open Up, Initiate More, And Stay CloseĀ Ā (Valued at $697)
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Lifetime Access ā Revisit the material anytime you need a reset or deeper understanding ($197)
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Vids, Worksheets & Guided Exercises ā Break old patterns and reinforce new,Ā intimacyĀ skills ($197)
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Bonus #1: The EXACT Things to Say If Your Partner Is Hurtful (Valued at $147)
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Bonus #2: 5 MinuteĀ Method To Be Truly Vulnerable & Get Your Needs Met (Valued at $147)
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Bonus #3:Ā The 11 Pitfalls to Avoid if your Partner Is Very AvoidantĀ Ā (Valued at $99)
ALL OF THIS FOR $1484
ONLY $199Ā $47*
(price to jump up soon!)