Long Term Regulation Practices for Anxious Nervous Systems
🔊 This is the work that takes your healing onto another level. It's bone deep.⬇️
Ready to re-wire your anxious attachment attachment so deeply that that you feel at peace in your own skin - at a cellular level
Don’t miss this. The Anxious Attachment Alchemy Pre-Sale ends on 1s December, 2025
Anxious Attachment Intensive is a nourishing deep repair system that penetrates to the roots of your anxious attachment dissolving the original wounds AND subconscious patterns that were first carved into you so you feel luminous, radiant and soft, utterly at peace with a regulated nervous system, and feeling safer in relationships, life and work.
If you're stuck in the chase-spiral- cycle - texting faster than your brain can catch up with you, making snipe comments you instantly regret, then collapsing in bone-deep shame...OR bawling your eyes out with sobs you didn't see coming - this is for you...
"I feel normal in my own skin again"
Let’s face the facts: rewiring the subconscious patterns behind your anxious activation is the ultimate way to heal and expand your capability and capacity deeply
This is the work that reshapes how you respond loooong before a spiral even begins.
In fact, healing the subconscious imprints that created your rejection sensitivity and abandonment alarm system is the answer to full-body repair.
This work reaches the layer talk therapy never reaches: where your body first learned to brace, shrink, overreact, or disappear...
Nothing changes more deeply than repairing the original blueprint your anxious attachment system has been running for decades.
And if that wasn’t reason enough to pay attention…
● Your attachment stops treating every minor shift like a five-alarm fire.
No more instant jolt when someone's tone changes. No more stomach-drop when your message is left unread. No more heat flooding your chest because someone seemed "off" for half a second. Your system finally learns: not every silence is terrifying
●Your emotional capacity actually expands instead of collapsing under pressure.
You can feel sad and know it'll pass. You can feel mad without deciding you're or they're a terrible person. You stay with yourself through it, holding your own hand, staying present, instead of hiding in a corner or scrambling to fix people's mood just to feel ok again.
● Your perception clears up like you've taken off smudged glasses.
Someone doesn't like you? You're genuinely okay. You notice the warmth from people who do care, even in the quiet moments, and you feel it land. You know you matter without needing constant proof, even when someone walks away or criticises you.
● Your sense of self holds together You don't crumble and start apologising for things you didn't even do. You don't morph into the cool girl whose "so chill" saying "yeah totally, whenever works for you!". You don't laugh at jokes that aren't even half-funny. You stay you: your preferences intact, your voice steady.
● And the part that's been on high alert since you were teeny tiny. It finally gets to rest.
The relentless self-surveillance system finally shuts off. You get to dance, giggle, carelessly lie in the sun. You laugh without immediately checking if they're laughing too. Your mind and body finally feel rested, secure, and safe no longer treating every wobble like the end of the world.
Buuuuuuuuuuut listen… your anxious attachment is still out here behaving like it’s 1987 ...
...and someone forgot to pick you up from school.
You keep trying to “stay calm,” “think rationally,” “not take things personally”…and your body’s like: erm no.
⚠️Threat detected.
🚨Sound the alarms.
🫨Everyone panic!
You’re likely struggling with that split-second jolt, the stomach-drop, the racing thoughts, the “oh god what’s happening” spiral…
All over something as innocent as a last minute cancellation from your best friend, a shift in tone from your partner, or a negative vibe you've 'caught' from your boss.
And you’re probably wanting to feel like a functioning adult inside your own body, but you’re being hijacked by a survival system that still thinks you're five seconds away from being abandoned on a motorway.
This whole circus likely leaves you feeling overcooked, under-armoured, and vaguely humiliated by your own reactions.
But it does not have to stay like this...
And it's not your fault (honest!)
➡️You might tried the mantras.
➡️Practiced the communication hacks.
➡️Kept yourself “under control.”
And maybe you’ve even seen small shifts.
But this isn’t about willpower or saying or doing the right thing.
This is deeper. The patterns you’re fighting now are sitting far deeper than mindset or behavioural changes.
It’s now about healing what’s driving the reaction in the first place.
🎯The place where your nervous system still fires before you can think
What if you could heal the subconscious wiring that keeps you going in circles, PLUS expand your emotional bandwidth so you can feel deeply secure?
I’m Shabana, and trust me, I know exactly what it feels like to live like you’re being abandoned every twelve minutes… even when nothing is happening.
I spent years trying to “think positive,” “stay calm,” and “not take things personally,” while my nervous system was backstage pulling levers like
“release the childhood trauma sirens.”
And then it changed.
I realised that I wasn’t being dramatic.
It wasn’t broken.
It wasn’t “too sensitive.”
It was running an outdated survival code I never agreed to.
I went straight into the imprint underneath: the place where the panic, the rejection sensitivity, the abandonment alarms, and the “I can’t handle this” sensations were actually coming from.
And since discovering this?
• I stopped overreacting to tiny things like they were major betrayals
• My emotional capacity expanded when things got intense at work or with a loved one
• My system stopped misreading neutrality as danger
• And I finally felt like I wasn’t being dragged through life by relentless reactions I didn’t choose or want
And the best part?
This isn’t magic.
It’s repair.
Deep repair...like your fave night cream on the dresser.
And it’s repeatable.
If I could change, you can too and that’s exactly what I’m handing you Anxious Attachment Intensive
P.S. If you need reassurance that this works… the 14-dayguarantee exists because I trust the process more than your nervous system trusts silence :-)
STEP INSIDE THE WORLD OF...
ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ALCHEMY
The Deep Repair Work for Women Ready to Heal the Root of Anxious Attachment Activation
...The deep nervous system reprogramming intensive to heal the subconscious drivers behind your anxious activation so you can finally stop being hijacked by panic, hypervigilance, and abandonment wounds without having to keep white-knuckling your way through triggers or performing security you don't actually feel.
Anxious Attacher Intensive will help you to go...
Your body flooding with panic the second someone seems quieter than usual at dinner, your stomach twisting into knots, red hot, reading their silence as "they're pulling away, they're annoyed, do something now!
You're loose and carefree chatting away about the latest TikTok drama, fully invested in who said what, laughing so hard your stomach hurts and you might have actually peed a little 🙈
Saying "I'm sorry" your stomach instantly knotting as you run through everything you said today looking for what you did wrong, while that voice from childhood whispers "if you were just better, they wouldn't be angry.
Your humming with this quiet, unshakeable knowing: you're good, you're safe, you're allowed to exist if things feel tense, or when someone's having a moment, even when the room gets heavy.🙃
Walking into a room and immediately scanning to see if they smiled at you the same way they smiled yesterday, replaying the goodbye hug to see if it felt shorter, and now you're spiralling about what shifted
Noticing their smile and just enjoying, hugs feel like hugs, not data to analyse. Conversations flow naturally with your system calm and relaxed. You're just...easy. Light. Free.🥳
Dive deep into what awaits you starting January 2026
STEP ONE
THE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT SYSTEM
Understanding Your Body's Survival Code
This foundational nervous system education step will completely reframe how you understand your body's reactions and why you've been stuck in the same patterns.
This is the missing piece that helps you stop personalises others actions and start healing the actual source.
The neurobiological mapping is what shows you exactly why your system defaults to panic, personalisation, and hypervigilance, leading to finally having compassion for your nervous system instead of shame.
You're Getting:
- 4 in-depth video trainings that break down the science of anxious attachment in a new language that actually makes sense
- Somatic awareness practices that are designed to help you recognise your patterns as they're happening in real-time
- Pattern tracking tools enabling you to map your core triggers and threat responses so you can interrupt them at the source
Value: $497
STEP TWO
THE SHAME + SELF-BLAME COMPLEX
Dismantling the "It's My Fault" Reflex Value: $497
This deep shame-release module can dismantle the automatic self-blame response that's been running your relationships since childhood.
This transformative somatic-based work is what finally breaks the cycle of absorbing everyone else's emotions as evidence of your inadequacy.
The Echo Pattern identification is what helps you see how childhood wounds are replaying in your adult relationships, leading to freedom from the exhausting belief that love must be earned through over-functioning.
You're Getting:
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5 video trainings on the origins of shame and self-blame that trace the pattern back to where it was encoded so you can release it at the root
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Body-based shame dissolution practices that are specifically designed to metabolise shame somatically, not just mentally
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Real-time reflex interruption tools enabling you to catch the "it's my fault" response before it takes over and rewire it in the moment
Value: $497
STEP THREE & FOUR
Healing the 2 Core Wound
Healing the Wounds that Create Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
This intensive wound-healing module uncovers the relational blueprints that created your anxious attachment in the first place.
This deeply compassionate inner work allows you to stop unconsciously recreating childhood dynamics in your adult relationships.
The two core wounds deep dives are what reveal how your earliest relational experiences shaped your entire nervous system's expectations of love, leading to liberation from patterns you never chose and the ability to build new, conscious relational templates.
You're Getting:
- 6 video trainings on the imprinting that show you how distance, inconsistency, and conditional love wired your body to expect rejection and abandonment
- Practices to metabolise the "I'm not enough" belief and guided somatic practices to release inherited roles that are designed to free you from the "I have to be perfect/good/helpful to be loved" survival strategy
- Integration exercises enabling you to consciously choose which patterns to keep and which to release and to choose differently
(value $997)
STEP FIVE
REWIRING THE THREAT-DETECTION SYSTEM
This intensive regulation training recalibrates your nervous system's threat-detection so it stops treating every relational shift like an emergency.
Delivered in step 5, this practice-heavy somatic work moves you from constant hypervigilance to being wholly present
The anxious-specific grounding practices are what actually regulate your system instead of generic advice that never worked, leading to the ability to tolerate uncertainty, slowness, and ambiguity without your body collapsing into panic.
You're Getting
- 6 guided regulation practices that are designed specifically for anxiously-wired nervous systems and address the panic-chase-collapse cycle at its root
- Real-time abandonment alarm tools that are what you use the moment your system starts flooding so you can stay in your body instead of falling apart
- Capacity-building exercises enabling you to expand your window of tolerance so you can feel emotions without being overtaken by them
VALUE $697
STEP SIX
RECLAIMING WHO YOU ARE IN CONNECTION
Becoming the One Who Stays Steady🤗
This integration and embodiment module can solidify your new relational baseline so you stay stable even when things get hard.
This identity-level transformation work is what allows you to stop losing yourself in relationships and become the one who stays intact no matter what.
Unlock the responsive-not-reactive space between trigger and action so old patterns can't hijack you anymore, leading to the ability to hold boundaries, navigate conflict, and stay present in uncertainty without collapsing or abandoning yourself.
You're Getting:
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5 video trainings on relational sovereignty that teach you how to stay yourself even when someone pulls back, gets upset, or withdraws
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Conflict navigation practices that are designed to help you move through tension without making it mean you're unlovable or at fault
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Deeper boundary-setting work enabling you to protect your energy and hold your ground without your nervous system reading it as selfish or dangerous
Value: $697
TAKE YOUR ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT HEALING EVEN FURTHER WITH THESE EXTRAS 🤫
BONUS 1
The Regulation Toolkit Audio Library
All the practices in audio format so you can use them on a school run, a walk, a lunch break, or the moment something hits
($197 value)
BONUS 2
THE 3 MINUTE SELF-TRUST MORNING RITUALS
A 7-day ritual sequence that cements your new baseline
Includes breath anchors, emotional priming practices and confidence activators. Think of it as nervous system insurance.
($197 value)
BONUS 4
THE 6 WEEK SECURE SELF TRACKER
A guided system that walks you through the exact patterns you’re healing so you actually see progress.
Including daily prompts for emotional tracking, trigger maps that show your progress and weekly review questions to spot the shifts.
This gives you the “tangible proof” that you are seeing improvement and holding yourself accountable.
($297 value)
BONUS 3
Lifetime Access
You’ll get full, lifetime access to every module, training, audio, and update, so you can come back to this work any time your anxious attachment system needs a reset or a refresher. Whether it’s six months from now or six years from now, you can revisit the lessons, rewatch the trainings, and re-regulate at your own pace whenever life, love, or your attachment system gets loud again.
($297 value)
Imagine …
😍 Navigating your relationship with confidence and ease—knowing that no matter what comes up, you’ve got the tools to handle it.
😍 Your partner waiting for you to come home, excited to connect and share their day—because you've created a bond between you that just feels that safe.
😍 Staying calm in moments that used to trigger you—surprising your partner (and yourself) as you both stay present, open, and connected.
😍 Expressing yourself clearly and authentically—saying “no” when you need to, asking for what you want, and trusting your relationship can hold it.
😍 The exhausting push-pull is finally over. No more huge fights followed by silence—just honest conversations that bring you closer.
😍 You’re no longer stuck overanalysing every word or wondering if the problem is you—you understand your needs and your partner’s behaviour.
😍 Feeling grounded, secure, and self-assured in your relationship—free from emotional chaos, fear, or the need to overperform.
LET’S REWIRE MY ATTACHMENT STYLE🙌🏾
The Anxious Attacher Intensive Promise
100% MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE
And in case you were worried - joining is risk-free! You're protected by a 14-day "Attachment Knows Best Guarantee"
If you're hesitant because you've tried everything: therapy, books, other courses, I want to ensure you can confidently step into Anxious Attachment Intensive without a worry.
Why? Because I trust the process more than your nervous system trusts silence.
You have 14 full days to dive into the modules, experience the somatic practices, and feel the shift in your body, and if the work doesn't land, if it's not clicking for any reason, just email me and you'll get every penny back.
No interrogation. No guilt trips. No "but did you really try?" Just a refund.
There's absolutely nothing to lose. The only risk? Staying exactly where you are.
HAVE WE MET?
Hi, I'm Shabana.
YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLES COACH.
I'm your go-to girl for all things attachment styles, relationship transformation, and making your love life as secure and fulfilling as possible.
I've been navigating the complex world of attachment styles since 2016 and today I've helped countless women transform their relationships and find secure love.
But it wasn't always like that:
When I first started my journey, I was stuck in the anxious-avoidant trap. I was a fearful-avoidant, constantly walking on eggshells, and pushing down my needs (or demanding them so hard) I could barely breathe.
After years of this exhausting cycle, I hit rock bottom with screaming matches, silent treatments, and a relationship that was hanging by a thread.
It was soul-crushing, but once I became securely attached, my relationships also became secure, stable & consistent,
Since 2019, I've focused exclusively on attachment styles and relationship coaching.
Now, I can't wait to share my 7-Step Secure Way Method, powerful communication strategies, and proven relationship insights and tools with you.
So that you get the relationships you deserve: the secure and safe love that makes you weak in the knees.
You ready?
Let's go. xx
Is this you?
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You're tired of feeling like you're always on an emotional rollercoaster, analysing every text and interaction and wondering why your parter doesn't care?
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You're trying so hard, on the defensive or looking out for warning signs, because there's no real consistency to your relationship...
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You are exhausted from the constant worry of the relationship suddenly ending or wondering if you're even in the right relationship?
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You have so much love to give, and you know you're worth so much more, but building a lasting relationship feels like an uphill battle.
- You are burnt out from the push-pull dance, and you're ready to finally make relationships feel easy, stress-free, genuine and secure?
If any of these sounds like you, hit the join now button 👇🏽, because you’re EXACTLY where you need to be.
What you get _______,
LETS BRING IT TOGETHER!
The Secure Attacher: Your Complete Roadmap to a Healthy, Stable, and Consistent Relationship, plus my proven 7-Step Secure Way Method, 4 powerful bonuses to supercharge your transformation and so much more...
- 7-Step Secure Way Method (Value $997)
- BONUS 1: Healthy Secure Communication (Value $397)
- BONUS 2: Feminine & Masculine Energy (Value $297)
- BONUS 3: Lifetime Access revisit and refresh any time!! (Value $297)
- Expert Guidance: 5 years of experience coaching attachment styles (Value $297)
- Tools, insights, exercises, meditations, subconscious work and more.. (value $397)
VALUE FOR ALL OF THIS $2682
TODAY ONLY $555*
(or 2 payments of $299)
IF YOU'RE STILL READING...
You may be asking yourself...
How soon can I start?
How long is this course?
Is it only for intimate relationships?
Will this work for me if I'm not in a relationship?
Is there any live support?
Is there a refund?
HOW MUCH ARE YOU MISSING OUT ON EVERY DAY BECAUSE YOU'RE STUCK IN THE PUSH-PULL BUT DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET OUT?
I’ve transformed my own relationships using the 7-Step Secure Way Method inside this course, and I’ve seen countless others do the same.
Inside The Secure Attacher, I will show you how to break free from anxious-avoidant patterns and create a stable, SECURE and loving relationship so that you feel seen, heard, and understood.
Whether you’re anxious, fearful or avoidant stuck in a cycle of push and pull, o just a gal looking for love this course will give you the tools to transform your relationships (AND maybe even your life!)
Are you READY to experience the freedom and joy that secure attachment brings and get the love and connection you deserve?
See you on the other side…!
Shabana XoXo
I’m Ready to Start Feeling Secure💖
